So everything is self or other.

When you're focused on other, many of us,

and I think this has happened,

do any of you have, or either felt like you had,

or had either a parent that was physically abandoning,

or emotionally abandoning?

Many of us.

Now what happens in that phase of our life,

when we feel like we've been physically or emotionally

abandoned, is we then make a choice and a decision

that there's a level of shame there.

There's something wrong with me.

So then what we end up doing is we end up trying

to change ourselves.

We end up trying to change our own frame

so that we can feel safe.

So being an empath many times is a mechanism that we use

in order to get our needs met.

And our needs being met may mean that we change ourselves,

that we can't say no when someone else

wants us to do something, that we allow certain behaviors

to happen.

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