You're listening to the Stop Binge Eating Podcast with Kirsten Sarty, episode number 324.

Welcome to the Stop Binge Eating Podcast.

It's time for you to end your food obsession and begin feeling confident and in control around food.

You are absolutely capable of eliminating binge eating from your life,

and I'm going to show you how by giving you simple tools and insights

that you can apply in your own life. I'm your host, Kirst and Sarty. Now let's get to it.

Hello, today I'm talking about being assertive with yourself. What this basically is about

is finding the middle ground between being too soft

and too hard. So you can get yourself moving forward, working on your goals, and to get yourself

to actually do what you've been wanting to do. Many of you are way too hard on yourself.

And you think that's going to motivate you and push you. But in

actuality, it just makes you feel bad and brings you down so you actually lose motivation.

If someone is beating you down, including yourself, you're not going to then take positive

action. You're going to do nothing because that's what we do when we feel down.

Calling yourself a failure, weak, a loser, a lost cause, and telling yourself you'll never

be able to do it, you're too broken, or anything that's harsh is going to make you feel bad,

hopeless, inadequate, ashamed feelings that drive inaction, not action. And it usually drives people to give up

and stop trying, the opposite of what they're intending for themselves. So many people quit on

themselves, either little quits for a day or two or big quits for longer because of how they're

talking to themselves. It's what causes them to stop trying

and stop putting an effort. They're causing themselves to stop progressing because they're choosing

to speak to themselves so harshly. And for so many people who do this, they aren't actually doing

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