You got to lay the principal down, not expecting the fruit rate in that moment.

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Right now, we are in the middle of a theme called the stage-based parenting, which you guys, if you've been listening to some of these podcasts, you will have heard about. One of the great questions that just came up this morning, I wanted to talk to you, Jeff, about this, because this is a great, great topic. Miranda says, looking for advice from those who have experienced kids who are extremely competitive. Somehow everything

has turned into a race and it has gone from healthy competition to unhealthy. We have a three and five

year old and they are always racing to get to the door first, be the first one in line for a walk,

finish dinner, get unbeckled, etc. It's to the point that when one of them wins, it's a huge

meltdown for the other one.

We are exhausted from constantly intervening and trying to work through the meltdown.

I just want to see some of these competitions.

Anyway, this sounds funny.

This one hit me in my soul.

Our family feels this deeply.

Yeah, so she's like, any advice on how to work through?

This would be great.

So, yeah, Jeff, you guys have any, any future? I don't know if I have a ton of advice. Yeah, I don't know if I have a ton of advice, but I would say, man, yeah, this one hits me deep in my soul because we feel it too. I think that young, which is similar. Our kids are just getting out of that age, uh, and just getting out of that stage, you know, four and six. And so we, we, which isn't much older, but I do feel like it's a little bit older where like we, we were walking through this for a couple years. What I would say a couple things is rapid fire. One, just stay the course. Like, it's not like you got to just, I'm really big on this thing right now. Just like, you got to lay the principle down, not expecting the fruit rate in that moment. You know, and I think this is one of those ones too. Like,

you just got to keep consistently showing them the principle. And you will bear fruit in like a

year or two. Like, I know that's not fun and that's exhausting. But that's kind of what we saw.

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