EP 314: Navigating Conflict: Avoid the "Four Horsemen" and Strengthen Your Relationship
Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice
Dr. Morgan Anderson
4.7 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 8 March 2023
⏱️ 28 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, I discuss the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" : Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling.
These “4 Horsemen” as originally taught by John and Julie Gottman, are exactly what you DON’T want in your relationship!
Inside of this episode:
- You will learn how to combat these unhealthy conflict skills (what you should be doing instead)
- What healthy communication looks like in romantic relationships.
- How to practice self-compassion and appreciation to build and maintain secure attachment.
You won’t want to miss this episode whether you’re single or in a relationship!
Sneak peek from today’s episode:
“Self-compassion is the antidote to defensiveness.”
"When we can learn how to be compassionate for ourselves, we can then learn how to be compassionate for others."
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable Podcast with me your host Dr. Morgan Anderson, clinical psychologist, relationship |
| 0:16.4 | coach, love expert, creator of the ESL relationship method, and athletic wear connoisseur. My mission is to help you raise |
| 0:27.3 | yourself worth, have great relationships, and step confidently into the next level of your life. |
| 0:34.0 | Each week, two episodes will air, |
| 0:37.0 | featuring expert advice, live coaching, |
| 0:40.0 | and tips showing you exactly how to improve your life and attract great relationships. |
| 0:46.0 | You deserve to feel empowered, secure, and loved. |
| 0:51.0 | So buckle up and let's get vulnerable. Do you feel like you keep |
| 0:56.8 | dating people who won't commit and you've struggled in your dating life you've |
| 1:01.6 | gone through all these breakups, or maybe you've even struggled to consistently date and stay in the dating game, and you are actually the one who struggles to commit and let your walls down. |
| 1:14.0 | I know how exhausting this can be. |
| 1:18.0 | When you have this desire on your |
| 1:25.0 | dating life life with |
| 1:28.0 | dating life is just going nowhere |
| 1:30.0 | and you can't seem to find a person to build a healthy relationship with. |
| 1:37.0 | I just know how frustrating that is and I was able to take everything I know from clinical psychology and attachment theory research and NLP belief, and build a program that can help you no matter what your past has been, |
| 2:00.1 | even if you've never had a healthy relationship before in your life, |
| 2:05.0 | this program will help you become the securely attached, healthy, high self-worth, version of you, |
| 2:15.8 | who effortlessly attracts that partner that you've always wanted. |
| 2:20.3 | So spots are really limited. We can only take a small amount of people every month and I want to invite you to not wait on your healing. |
| 2:32.0 | Love is for those who are willing to be brave and do the work and you are so deserving |
| 2:41.6 | of removing the barriers to everything you desire. |
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