Ep. 313: End Emotional Outsourcing: Why You Drink to Cope (and How to Stop Looking Outside Yourself to Feel Okay)

The Hello Someday Podcast For Sober Curious Women

Casey McGuire Davidson: Sober Coach

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.9 • 752 Ratings

🗓️ 9 April 2026

⏱️ 58 minutes

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If you’re the woman who holds everything together, manages everyone else’s needs, and still ends the day overwhelmed, resentful, and reaching for wine, this episode is for you. In this conversation, I’m talking with Beatriz Victoria Albina about a pattern that quietly drives so much stress, anxiety, overgiving, and overdrinking: emotional outsourcing. Bea is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, and author of End Emotional Outsourcing. Together, we talk about why so many women end up stuck in people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-abandonment — and how to begin breaking that cycle without shame. For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/end-emotional-outsourcing-why-you-drink-to-cope-and-how-to-stop-looking-outside-yourself-to-feel-okay/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Love The Podcast and Want To Say Thanks? ☕ Buy me a coffee! In the true spirit of Seattle, coffee is my love language. So if you want to support the hours that go into creating this show each week, click this link to buy me a coffee and I’ll run to the nearest Starbucks + lift a Venti Almond Milk Latte and toast to you! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/hellosomeday 💕 Support the sponsors of The Hello Someday Podcast You can find all the special discounts mentioned on the show right here: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/sponsors/ Leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I read every single review and they really help the podcast algorithm decide to share my show with a wider audience. Just click here, scroll below the latest episodes, and you’ll see the link to “rate and review this podcast”. I’ll be forever grateful to hear from you and to read reviews like this one from Laura, “I’ve listened to so many sober podcasts and The Hello Someday Podcast is by far THE BEST Sobriety Podcast out there for women. This podcast was key to me quitting alcohol. Casey’s practical tips and tricks are invaluable, with advice I haven’t heard anywhere else. If I could give this podcast 27 stars I would!!” Connect with Casey McGuire DavidsonTo find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Hello Sunday podcast, the podcast for busy women who are ready to drink less and live more.
0:10.2	I'm Casey McGuire Davidson, ex-red wine girl turned life coach, helping women create lives they love without alcohol.
0:18.4	But it wasn't that long ago that I was anxious, overwhelmed, and drinking a bottle
0:23.1	of wine a night to unwind. I thought that wine was the glue holding my life together,
0:28.7	helping me cope with my kids, my stressful job, and my busy life. I didn't realize that my love
0:35.0	affair with drinking was making me more anxious and less able to manage
0:39.5	my responsibilities. In this podcast, my goal is to teach you the tried and true secrets of creating
0:46.5	and living a life you don't want to escape from. Each week, I'll bring you tools, lessons, and
0:52.9	conversations to help you drink less and live more.
0:56.6	I'll teach you how to navigate our drinking-obsessed culture without a buzz,
1:01.0	how to sit with your emotions when you're lonely or angry, frustrated, or overwhelmed,
1:06.9	how to self-soothe without a drink, and how to turn the decision to stop drinking from your
1:12.6	worst-case scenario to the best decision of your life. I am so glad you're here. Now, let's get
1:19.2	started. Hey there, today we are talking about something that I see all the time with the women I work
1:26.3	with. So many of us describe ourselves as this awesome mix of overachieving people pleasers.
1:33.0	We are the women who hold everything together at work and at home and in our relationships.
1:39.3	You do all of the things and if you're anything like me, then you come home and you drink a bottle of wine to forget about all of the things.
1:48.5	And when you live like that for years, it is exhausting.
1:53.4	A lot of us end up using alcohol as the way we cope with pressure.
1:57.8	We think it helps us take the edge off and quiet our anxiety and finally relax after a day of being on for everyone else while still trying to be on for answering emails and dealing with our kids.
2:11.1	But underneath the drinking, there's often something deeper going on.
2:16.2	So I'm really excited to talk to my guest today. She calls it
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