Ep. 305 - How to find yourself again after a breakup
How to Get Over Your Ex
Dorothy AB Johnson
4.7 • 577 Ratings
🗓️ 8 September 2025
⏱️ 21 minutes
🧾️ Download transcript
Summary
After a breakup, one of the most common (and painful) questions I hear is: "Who am I without them?" If you don't know who you are apart from your ex, you can't clearly see what you want, what's possible, or how to build a life that's truly yours. Instead, you risk creating a life that's just a reaction to the breakup, or worse, one that keeps you tied to the person who left. In this episode, I'm sharing the exact process I use with my clients to help them uncover who they are without their ex. Inside, you'll learn why knowing yourself is the foundation for not wanting your ex, how it changes the way you date (or don't), and why it's the only way to create a bigger and better life that feels authentic instead of accidental. You'll walk away with a framework, five activation codes, that will help you finally shift from obsessing over them to becoming obsessed with your own life.
The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
Transcript
Click on a timestamp to play from that location
| 0:00.0 | You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex, episode number 305, how to find yourself again after a breakup. |
| 0:14.8 | Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time. |
| 0:24.5 | I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy. |
| 0:26.6 | Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy. |
| 0:34.3 | Hello, hello, beautiful brave hearts. |
| 0:36.5 | How are you doing? I feel like it's been forever since I have done |
| 0:40.6 | a solo episode. So I'm like very excited to chit chat with all of you today. We are going to be |
| 0:46.8 | talking about something that's going to change everything for you, learning who you are without your |
| 0:53.2 | ex and why it is literally the key to everything you want. |
| 0:56.9 | Something that comes up a lot in my work as a breakup coach, whether you're going through a breakup |
| 1:02.2 | or a divorce, but especially for those of you who are with your partners for like a significant |
| 1:07.2 | part of your developmental years is not really knowing who you are without that |
| 1:13.4 | person. Does that resonate with any of you? Which, when we don't know who we are without that |
| 1:19.7 | person, it also means not knowing what you want in life without this person. It's a very, like, |
| 1:26.2 | scary venture to start thinking about and painting the |
| 1:28.8 | picture of your bigger and better life when you're not even really sure of who you are, right? |
| 1:33.5 | Because you're just not sure of what that even is, what it could be, what's not what's even |
| 1:39.5 | possible, what's on the menu of life, how do I choose, how do I know what I don't know? Right? So it's very important |
| 1:46.9 | that we learn, you know, who we are without our X because here's the thing. I see this almost in |
| 1:52.2 | three bullet points here. You ready? So the first is it prevents you from building a life that's |
| 1:59.6 | actually bigger and better, right? Think about it. |
| 2:02.6 | If you don't know who you are, your values, your desires, your dreams that exist independently |
... |
Please login to see the full transcript.
Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Dorothy AB Johnson, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.
Generated transcripts are the property of Dorothy AB Johnson and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.
Copyright © Tapesearch 2026.