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Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

EP 304: Avoidantly Attached to Madly Deeply in Love with Special Guest Kirsten Durand

Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

Dr. Morgan Anderson

Relationships, Mental Health, Education, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.71.2K Ratings

🗓️ 1 February 2023

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Summary

"Discover Kirsten's powerful journey of finding love, with the help of Dr. Morgan and a willingness to become securely attached!" 

 

"I had to find myself and figure out what that was before I could even be ready for a relationship like this. So I think it's just crazy how the timing happened with it all, because I literally met him two months after the meeting with you." - Kirsten Durand

 

Kirsten Durand is a successful business owner, streamer, and content creator who gained viral fame with her fiance for their engagement ring mishap. She is currently planning her wedding for 2024 and is passionate about helping others find love and healing through understanding attachment theory.

 

Kirsten Durand was single for four years, so she had developed a pattern of quickly cutting off relationships. When she met her now fiance, she was determined to do things differently. She had met with Dr. Morgan just two months before meeting her now fiance, and this helped her show up differently in her dating life. She allowed her walls to be broken down and, she went against her avoidant attachment tendencies, which led to the start of a great relationship. Kirsten and her fiance are now happily engaged! Kirsten credits her engagement to the help of Dr. Morgan. 

 

In this episode, you will learn the following:

  1. How to Overcome Avoidant Attachment Dating Strategies
  2. What It Takes to Find the Right Person (Even if You Have an Avoidant Attachment Style) 
  3. The Viral Story Behind the Proposal Gone Wrong 

 

Ready to begin your own journey to love?! I've got you covered: 

 

Apply to the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program Here: 

https://www.drmorgancoaching.com/esl-breakthrough

 

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Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drmorgancoach

 

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Connect with Kirsten here: 

TikTok: @tandkay01 

Instagram: @kay_smilesxo

 

 

Episode Sneak Peak: 

[00:00:00]

Kirsten is a successful business owner, streamer, and content creator. She is currently planning her wedding for 2024. She and her fiance lost the engagement ring at the beach during the engagement shoot. Their viral video has over 39.5 million views on TikTok! 

[00:01:23]

Before meeting her partner, Kirsten was single for four years. She says she put a lot of pressure on first connections. She was avoiding being vulnerable. 

[00:10:13]

Kirsten: "In anything in life, it's effort. Why do you think dating shouldn't be effort? Anything that is worthwhile takes time to build. You must build a foundation."

[00:11:31]

Kirsten: The old way of dating is having high expectations and going into the date with the checklist...Dr. Morgan points out this is a way to avoid being vulnerable and to avoid connection. 

[00:19:47]

Dr. Morgan: "The most attractive version of ourselves is when we are authentically ourselves." 

[00:24:04]

Do you feel like this was the most vulnerable, real open and honest that you've been? 

Kirsten: Yes. I literally met him two months after the meeting with you. I'm so glad that we've connected again.

[00:25:11]

"We can allow ourselves to be gushy and romantic, " Dr. Morgan says. "If we don't feel emotionally safe, we can't even access that part of ourselves " When did you know you could see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person?

[00:27:08]

A video of a proposal that went viral on TikTok wasn't the actual proposal. Instead, it was just the engagement shoot for save the date photos. The photographer eventually found the ring. The couple spent two and a half hours looking for it.

[00:33:45]

And he's just like, you know, he didn't blame me. He was like, okay, well, it's just another Tuesday with you. Let's find it and move on. And I feel like a lot of guys would be like, why did you jump in it?

[00:34:07]

Dr. Morgan: Having that partner that can kind of be that securely attached base really helps move us more towards a securely attached place. Sometimes it's nice to have a partner to reach out to, and they can help you in ways that they can give you grace. Both of those things are beautiful parts of being with the right partner.

Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable Podcast with me your host Dr. Morgan Anderson, clinical psychologist, relationship

0:16.4

coach, love expert, creator of the ESL relationship method, and athletic wear connoisseur. My mission is to help you raise

0:27.3

yourself worth, have great relationships, and step confidently into the next level of your life.

0:34.0

Each week, two episodes will air,

0:37.0

featuring expert advice, live coaching,

0:40.0

and tips showing you exactly how to improve your life and attract great relationships.

0:46.0

You deserve to feel empowered, secure, and loved.

0:51.0

So buckle up and let's get vulnerable. Do you feel like you keep

0:56.8

dating people who won't commit and you've struggled in your dating life you've

1:01.6

gone through all these breakups, or maybe you've even struggled to consistently date and stay in the dating game, and you are actually the one who struggles to commit and let your walls down.

1:14.0

I know how exhausting this can be.

1:18.0

When you have this desire on your

1:25.0

dating life life with

1:28.0

dating life is just going nowhere

1:30.0

and you can't seem to find a person to build a healthy relationship with.

1:37.0

I just know how frustrating that is and I was able to take everything I know from clinical psychology and attachment theory research and NLP belief, and build a program that can help you no matter what your past has been,

2:00.1

even if you've never had a healthy relationship before in your life,

2:05.0

this program will help you become the

2:10.0

securely attached, healthy, high self-worth, version of you,

2:15.8

who effortlessly attracts that partner that you've always wanted.

2:20.3

So spots are really limited, we can only take a small amount of people every month and I want to invite you to not wait on your healing.

2:32.0

Love is for those who are willing to be brave and do the work and you are so deserving of

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