As a three-year-old, you should have the respect for authority to sit in your bed for two hours just because I told you to.

You know, it's like, come on, guys.

What's up, guys? Welcome to Five Minute Fatherhood.

So sometimes we talk about teens and sometimes we talk about toddlers.

And today we're going to talk about

toddlers lee from homeroom our online community asks us great question which i think you know

everybody who is parenting a toddler knows we just transferred our son to a big boy bed but he's getting

up at five at six a.m is there any way to train him to stay in his room longer?

And there's one thing I've learned about Jeff and Alyssa, it's that they have really invested

in how to figure out in their children's sleep habits. So I like, more than anyone else I know.

So I want to hear what your thoughts are about this, Jeff. Well, yeah, I mean, it actually starts with our sleep and like our sanity. And then we work backwards from there of like, hey, we want to set up structures, rhythms and boundaries where we feel like everyone is flourishing and that we can all be better. And for us and our family, that's been like, yeah, kind of sleep and just making sure that's

important and stuff like that and kind of structures, not just for the kids, but for everyone.

So yeah, this is I, this is we, so this is one that we really concentrate on of which we have, you know, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the I also say we didn't get there super difficulty. You just have to have the right kind of framework. What I mean by that is, you know, be prepared for the long haul, right?

One thing you don't want to do is like, this is how we're doing it. And so just like do it.

Like don't turn it into some terrorizing thing, right? It was very small, subtle and like a long

play for us. And so what that means is, you know, yeah, probably the pattern that displayed with most of our kids is that they get up around six, you know, not anymore. They probably get up later now, a little bit later. But, you know, when they're two, whatever. So how can we make the bedroom feel like a really fun place, a special place? And then how can we incrementallyrain? And so it's just really just like training,

just like training you do with everything else, if you practice it. So we would, let's say, you know, 11 a.m. We would go upstairs with the kids and say, hey, we're going to practice. You know, I want you to pretend like, and you make it fun. I want you to get in your bed. I want, you know, I want you to get up, but I want you to just start playing with things and daddy will tell you

when you can come down and, right? And then you do that for five minutes and then 15 minutes and then 20

minutes. And so. you know, I want you to get up, but I want you to just start playing with things and daddy will tell you when you can come down and right.

And then you do that for five minutes and then 15 minutes and then 20 minutes. And so we didn't jump straight from 6 to 8 a.m. We jumped from like 6 to 615 and then 6.30 and then, uh, you know, with training in the days and then make it really fun. and then there's baskets in the room of like, you know,

fun things that like they can only play with in their room.

So the room is very like,

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