How are you doing really?

Like, it's interesting where you, you know, that prompts you to go somewhere directly into your heart.

What's up, guys?

Welcome to Five-Min to Fatherhood.

So if you've been around, you know that we really love to talk about how helpful it is to schedule one-on-ones with your

kids, especially as they get older, they get into close or into the teenage years. And I get a lot

of questions as people begin to do this about like, okay, how does that conversation go? How do you

have a deep conversation? And so I really believe it's a good idea to have some questions in your back pocket that you like to pull out during a one-on-one that just helps you get things going, helps you get into, you know, more heart-to-heart. And so there's three questions that I love that are go-toes. I have two of these I've used a lot and one that I just started using and it's been awesome. Okay, so the first one that I love that are go-toes. Two of these I've used a lot and one that I just started

using and it's been awesome. Okay. So the first one that I use a lot is, you know, what's on your mind?

And that's usually how I start. And this was a question that was my biggest takeaway from the book,

the coaching habit. He just talks about this is, he's talking about this really in a business context, but he said, if when you're in a coaching relationship, you know, this is probably his favorite question. He also likes to follow up this question with, and what else? Because he wants to, I love that. Like, because usually there's a lot of things on their mind, but oftentimes the second thing they think about is actually a little deeper.

And so it's good to ask the question twice. What's on your mind? What else? The second question I like

to ask is, how's your relationship with mom? How's your relationship with your brother? How's your

relationship with this friend? Like really get into the way that they're relating to their friends.

They're relating to their siblings. And, you know,

that's, that's always an interesting conversation, something I like to check up on during the

one, because that's a really opportunity to coach. And then the third one, which is this new one,

which I really love is, how are you doing really? Like, how are you really doing? Like, it's a really interesting question because,

you know, people oftentimes are never asked this question this way. And it does something

weird to you. Like when, when you're asked, if somebody, just imagine, like a really close friend

you trust said, you know, you're sitting down you you know

you got some time maybe you're having coffee and they're like okay how are you doing really like

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