You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex, episode number 30.

What Breakup Lies are keeping you stuck?

Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time.

I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy.

Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy.

All right, my loves, I am feeling a little bit of tough love coming on today. So if you're new to the podcast, do not listen to this episode first.

Go to episode one.

This is a more complex, you know, concept that I'm trying to teach today.

So I don't want you to start out with this topic. I want you to

go listen to episodes one through five first. Now, I am noticing a theme in my clients, in my

consults with myself, my family and friends and a lot of people in the world right now. And it's

something that needs to be addressed. I'm really finding that we are believing

things that are not necessarily true. And as I was realizing this in my clients, I notice it's really

the whole premise of what I teach all of you about here on the podcast, right? So this goes back to episode

number one, why you're not over him yet. And what I talk about in that episode is that we have a

story about the breakup. We make the breakup mean something about ourselves. And that story,

that sentence and that collection of thoughts are what creates

how we feel. Not our ex. Not what he's doing or not doing. Not what he did in the past. We feel

angry, betrayed, sad, resentful, upset, lonely because of what we're thinking. And those thoughts are 100% optional. And here's the thing.

We can find truth in any thought we want to. And we can also find falsehood in any thought we want to. And we can also find falsehood in any thought we want to. But what I find is that we choose

to believe stuff that isn't true. And we act like it's truth. We act like it's very factual and certain.

When in reality, if we pick it apart,

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