Ep. 288 - The part of you that your ex hated? It's actually your secret weapon
How to Get Over Your Ex
Dorothy AB Johnson
4.7 • 577 Ratings
🗓️ 28 April 2025
⏱️ 11 minutes
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Summary
That quality you hate most about yourself? It might actually be your greatest strength. In this episode, I share how one of my clients discovered her "indecisiveness" was actually her hidden superpower and how this revelation transformed her healing journey. I'll walk you through the exact 5-step process to identify, reframe, and embrace the parts of yourself you've been at war with (often the same parts your ex criticized). When you finally love what you've been taught to hate, you don't just heal faster, you unlock the secret to building a life that's genuinely bigger and better than the one you had with your ex.
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| 0:00.0 | You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex, episode number 288. The part of you that your ex hated is actually your secret weapon. |
| 0:27.0 | Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time. |
| 0:29.2 | I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy. |
| 0:32.7 | Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy. Hello, hello, beautiful brave hearts. |
| 0:39.6 | Today we're diving into something that came up in a recent coaching session that I think is going to blow your mind. |
| 0:46.3 | So I was working with one of my bigger and better life mastermind clients as we were picking |
| 0:50.6 | different projects for our six months together. |
| 0:57.1 | And she was beating herself up over something she absolutely hates about herself. I've seen this over and over from her. |
| 1:03.5 | She waffles on decisions, feeling one way and then completely flipping it to the other side. |
| 1:10.2 | And she was inside of the Get Over |
| 1:11.5 | X program years ago. So I've known her over the last couple of years and she's done this. |
| 1:18.6 | And it drives her crazy. She sees it as one of her biggest flaws, this inability to like just |
| 1:27.2 | pick a lane and stay there. |
| 1:30.0 | But here's what hit me during our session. |
| 1:32.9 | I just was watching her. |
| 1:34.5 | She was like reveling in it, being all upset about it. |
| 1:38.1 | Like I've seen her do multiple times before. |
| 1:40.8 | But what I witnessed was like, what if this thing that she hates most about herself is actually |
| 1:47.6 | her superpower and it really got me thinking about my own journey and for years I was labeled as |
| 1:55.9 | someone who made reckless decisions my dad would shake head, my ex would lecture me about responsibility, |
| 2:02.9 | and I would internalize all of that. I internalized this idea that my quick decision making |
| 2:08.7 | was actually a character flaw that I needed to fix. But what I realized was once I embraced |
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