EP 26: The Truth About 50/50 Love and Trauma Bonds
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Idea to Launch Productions
4.8 • 592 Ratings
🗓️ 21 April 2025
⏱️ 49 minutes
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Summary
Hey friends, it's Carla and this week's episode of So What Now was a whole mix of "wait, what?" and "absolutely not."
We kicked things off with Ayesha Howard, who recently responded to the backlash around her decision to keep her baby. And listen… her response didn't move me. At all. I said what I said, and I still feel the same way.
Then we got into this Florida city trying to roll out a 4-day school week, which sounds cool until you realize... parents still work 5. So who's watching the kids on that fifth day? Make it make sense. Policies like this just make parenting even harder, and we had a lot to say about it.
Of course, we couldn't resist a little detour into celebrity mess this time it's the Beckhams. Apparently the two brothers aren't speaking because the younger one is now dating his big brother's ex. Yes, you read that right. We unpacked that drama and asked the real question: Is it ever okay to date your sibling's ex? (Spoiler: I have strong opinions)
And then we got a little deeper. Gabrielle Union recently walked back her old stance on 50/50 relationships, saying it came from a place of trauma. That opened the door for us to dig into the 4 trauma response types Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn.
Which one are you? Are you a mix? Dex and I broke it all down and, let's just say, we learned a lot about ourselves in the process.
As always, thanks for showing up, listening, and being part of this wild little podcast of ours. We're grateful for y'all every week.
– Carla
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| 0:00.0 | I don't know what's going to happen next, but yeah, so what now. |
| 0:12.9 | What's up, y'all? |
| 0:13.8 | Welcome back to another episode of the Sower Now podcast. |
| 0:16.7 | My name is Carly. |
| 0:17.4 | If you're new here. |
| 0:18.9 | And I'm Dexty. |
| 0:20.0 | If you're new, thank you for coming back. If you've already been here, hey girl. What's up, guy? How do you say to a guy? You'd be like, hey, girl, what do you say to a guy? To a guy? Hey, girl. I don't. I don't. I can't believe how quickly these things come out of your mouth. It's like it's, you don't it. I'm just kidding. I'd be like my routing is nine. Ah, chitang! I'm kidding. I'm kidding. No, she's not. I'm like, hi, friend. Oh. Yeah. Well, hey, friend. If you're a male, if you're, are they, them? Hey? Yeah. Yeah. Anybody. Everybody. Welcome. You're so random. I know. It's fine. Well, what's new with you? Um, what's new with me? I'm getting ready for my race. It's right around the corner. Actually, by the time. This is posted. I'm probably doing it that week. Oh, yes. Yes. Okay. So everybody, you're going to do. I was like, yeah. Actually, by the time... I was going to race at work, I was like, yeah. Actually, about time this is posted, I'm probably doing it that week. |
| 1:13.1 | Oh, yes. |
| 1:13.7 | Yes. |
| 1:14.2 | Okay, so everybody, you make sure you go to Dex's thing and send her some motivational. Yes, for my high rocks race. And I'm going to post it on social media. I paid for a package where they video me. Nice. I know that's Roy |
| 1:24.9 | but you can still do |
| 1:25.8 | your little |
| 1:26.3 | BTS |
| 1:27.0 | and post about it |
| 1:28.2 | Yes |
| 1:28.2 | Michaela's going to be there |
| 1:29.0 | social |
| 1:29.3 | Okay good |
| 1:29.6 | I'll see if she |
| 1:30.1 | can do that for me |
| 1:30.7 | so yes |
| 1:31.0 | that's Roy. But you can still do your little BTS. Yes. |
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