You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex, episode number 257, reduce fear through learning after a breakup.

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Hello, hello, beautiful brave hearts.

I am so excited to be here with you today. I love you so much. I wish I could hug you in real life. I feel like we're besties. So today I want to talk about reducing fear. I had a client of mine mentioned she was afraid of grief. She doesn't want to spiral down a hole she can't get out of you know and i can totally understand that

and totally relate however it got me thinking about reducing fear kind of just in general i think a lot of

times i've learned how to do something or make progress on it with the fear like be afraid and do it

anyways but what are the things that we can do to

reduce fear or what reduces fear? And the most basic thing I want us to remember is that

thoughts create feelings. So fear is a feeling that can be reduced by changing our thinking.

However, what is something that helps us change our thoughts?

There's a lot of things, right? But I wanted to talk about something specific today. I wanted to

talk about learning and experiencing or what I might call practicing. So let me give you an example.

Now, in eighth grade, I was afraid of roller coasters.

And we were going to this place called Valley Fair with our eighth grade class. And as a part of

this field trip, our chemistry slash science teacher was teaching us about the mechanics of

inertia and about roller coasters and how our body interacts with them.

And she was teaching this all before we left on this field trip.

And up until this point, I couldn't even get on one.

I had gotten on a roller coaster once before and it was a horrible experience and I was like,

never again that was

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