What's up, guys? Jeff and Jeremy here, another episode of Five Minute Fatherhood. We got a question from Tom. This is a good question. Tom, thank you for asking it. One, I think we all deal with. So let's try to lean into this for a couple minutes. It says how to have a vision when everything you had a vision for has failed. I feel like a failure, a vision setting, and achieving things. So what would you say to that,

Jeremy? Because this is real. This is the hard part too. And, you know, I think we always have to be

very careful of every system, everything, anything that's helpful always has, call it dark sides

or just things that like can hurt or whatever. And I think sometimes, you know, family teams cultures

can be so high vision, high culture, high all these things. But what do you do when like the, you're not meeting your own bar or you're feeling like you're not achieving this vision or things aren't happening? Because I think this is a totally realistic question. Yeah. Well, the first thing I tell every dad is that if you're breathing, you haven't lost. I've talked to grandfathers

who have done a lot of damage to their families and have become aware of it, are beginning to repent.

And man, there is a ton of opportunity for them to continue to push into this. And so it's

really important to understand that the fruit that we're going for is a multi-generational fruit. And so there's no way that you don't judge yourself. One of the things

that Paul says is I don't even judge myself. And so be careful not to cast too hard of a sentence

on yourself. The other thing that I just think is super important to keep in mind is that when you're

trying to figure out who to compare yourself to, it's really

discouraging to compare yourself to other families. Yeah, be careful. Yeah, the best thing to compare

yourself to is your own family and in the past. Yeah, where were we? Yeah, I want my ceiling to be

my kid's floor. And so I don't want to look around to other families who maybe generationally are light years beyond us.

I have friends who are the fourth or fifth generation of just incredible faithfulness.

And I'm watching what they're accomplishing in their generations.

And I can get really discouraged.

Likewise, there are a lot of people who have come from

really tough families and are doing so much work in their generation. And it's important to be okay

with that and to say, man, we're not going to recover everything in one generation, but we're going to do our

best. And so make sure that you're making progress as a family, but don't set the bar according to other families.

No, I would totally agree. And then, you know, I think that that's the beautiful part about the gospel is the gospel doesn't, there is the truth of you reap what you sow, but then there is the truth also in scripture of like God's a miraculous God that just can make restoration happen out of something. You know, what's that Old Testament classic example? Like the, he can restore what the locusts of eaten or what, you know? Um, yeah, that he can bring back to life places that are dead, right? And to bring something back from the dead is not normal. That's a miracle. And God can do that, right? And maybe it's smaller stuff too that maybe you just feel like, oh, I failed to this. that's a bummer. I think sometimes it's easy to be discourages as dad, not by the huge failures,

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