You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex, episode number 246, integrated grief.

Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time.

I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy. Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy.

Hello, hello, hello, beautiful brave hearts. I hope you are having a fabulous day, even if it's a difficult one.

It takes one thought, just as a reminder, one thought, one idea, one perspective, one shift to turn this day around.

So today I want to talk to you about integrated grief. I was chatting with a friend,

which by the way, I am a huge fan of Voxer. Have you guys heard of Voxer? It's like you can chat

back and forth like a walkie talkie. It is literally one of my favorite tools. I was on a Voxer

day with a client where we just coached

back and forth. And then I've got a lot of coach friends on there that I love to hang out with

on Voxer. It is so much fun. It reminds me of a private podcast, like specially curated for me.

That was a total side note. I'm not, it's not a sales pitch or anything. Boxer doesn't know who I am.

I just love Voxer. But but anyways I was chatting with a friend or perhaps this was a client conversation to be quite

honest in terms of integrated grief and integrating grief into a full life experience like why do we

expect to get rid of grief and never

experience it again? And what would it look like to use grief to form who we are? To use grief as art

to create who we are through the grief that we experience. I feel like that's kind of

what I did in my life. That's what I have experienced in the last five to six years with all

of the heartbreak that I have personally experienced, right? From the heartbreaking rock bottom

breakup that I experienced, it's like the grief left a scar or something,

but instead of seeing it as a scar, I've really started to integrate it in my life fully as a

beauty mark. And same thing with the miscarriage. I'm finally out of that to the point where I'm

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