Hello and welcome to another episode of spiritual shit. I'm your host, Ali Lovely.

We're going to get right into it today. I'm having right in because I have this like immense

amount of download I want to go through and I've been building this as a guide over the course

of the last few months. But this idea of being chosen is very interesting to me.

And the idea of being chosen may be at fault for why we tend to attract people, you know,

like narcissists or those adjacent, that advantage of us because the idea of being

chosen is allowing other people to validate our existence. It makes us feel worthy. It makes us feel

special. And if we are convinced that this ideology of being

chosen is something really important, then we will always be vulnerable to those who wish to take

advantage of us, always. And I think it's because it's actually really readable from far away. Someone who wants to be

chosen will often skirt past their own boundaries. They will often try to make things easier

for other people. They will over function. They'll be hyper nice. They'll over

communicate, over text. They will emotionally caretake too much. Any type of personality that

understands what a void looks like will be attracted to you. Narcissists and energy vampires,

they're not hunting everyone. They're drawn to people radiating that gap energy, that, that void,

the felt sense that something is missing and that someone else can complete them.

Now, uniquely, for those of us who identify as women, have watched from a

cultural standpoint this very perspective. The knight and shiny armor comes and saves us from the

castle, damsel in distress. We have this need of being chosen in some way or another, being the princess,

being the one that's idealized and cannot believe someone chose us. There's a song by a singer

Sasha something. And it's a beautiful song. It's called Why. And her voice is incredible. But there's this

part in the chorus where she says, why is it me? You give all this love to. Why is it me? Oh,

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