Ep 235: I’m a Failure – a mindset reset

Help Me Be Me

Cloud10

Health & Fitness

4.8 • 1.9K Ratings

🗓️ 25 October 2024

⏱️ 50 minutes

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“I’m ugly” “I should be better by now” “I’m a terrible mother” “My relevance is over” “I’m old”… Everybody has these thoughts. They are average. What matters is whether or not you engage with the thoughts and follow their tangent. You can quite literally start thinking ANYTHING repeatedly and you will start to see it as true. There is no such thing as true or not true, only what you experience through your own lens. The way the brain works is via comparison. It’s a threat-calculator – a unique and special one trained on our experiences. But it is not “us” in the bigger sense. “We” are the silent watcher, the presence within that witnesses these thoughts. The moment they occur there’s a choice to be made – you can follow the feeling and invest in the script, like you’re an actor in a play, or you can look at them – step back, and resume a state of non-attachment. This is an episode all about escaping from thought prison. Have you seen around thoughts yet? This is the goal in this episode. Support this week’s sponsors! Nature’s Blend For a limited time, enjoy up to 54% OFF Nature’s Blend and get a free bag of Cod Crispies, their bestselling wild-caught cod skin treats. Go to drmartypets.com/HELPMEBEME. Every order is backed by a 90-day money-back promise. BetterHelp Overcome your fears, with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/helpmebeme today to get 10% off your first month. LMNT Get your free LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at DrinkLMNT.com/HelpMeBeMe Also try the new LMNT Sparkling — a bold, 16-ounce can of sparkling electrolyte water. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:31.5	Welcome to Help Me Be me. I'm your host, Sarah May Bates. I'm a writer, director, mom, and a breakup coach with an
0:38.0	MAMFT. And this podcast is kind of like a personal relationship. In I talk to you like you're my friend.
0:44.0	I provide tools to help you feel more grounded, empowered, inspired, and most of all help you
0:49.7	see yourself. This is aimed at creating more harmony and happiness in the relationship you have with
0:55.1	you, so you can better guide your life and also be better to those you love. Take what helps
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1:04.4	If you're really struggling, call your local emergency services. Hi everyone it is an episode of Help Me Be Me this is Sarah and I'm doing an
1:21.0	episode called I'm a failure. It is a mindset reset that's the best way I can describe it
1:28.0	And it's really about just all of the things that our brain does.
1:33.0	I'm ugly. I should be farther by now.
1:35.0	I'm a terrible mother. My relevance is over. I'm old.
1:38.0	All of these thoughts are so normal. They're so average. Everyone has them and you can quite literally start thinking
1:47.6	anything repeatedly and you will start to see it as true. There's no such thing as true or not true, only
1:55.8	what you experience through your own lens, through your own mind's eye. And the way that our brain works is by comparison, constant
2:06.0	comparison. It's a calculator. It's constantly calculating threat. I'm
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