Hello and welcome to the Calmar You podcast. This is your host, Chloe Brotheridge. I'm a coach, a

hypnotologist and I'm the author of The Anxiety Solution and Brave New Girl. And this podcast is all

about helping you to become your calmest, happiest and most confident self. Hello, hello. Thank

you for listening. I hope you're having a good

week so far. I'm going to talk about something that could apply to a lot of different

situations and I'm going to use examples for the topic of public speaking, because that's something that I'm talking

about a lot of the moment. But any of the things that I'm going to share could apply to

anything and to anyone really, because we all have fears. That is part of what makes us human.

I remember going to a talk once, and the woman, it was Susan David, who is a psychologist, and she said,

the only people that don't experience fear is dead people. And I often add to that, also psychopaths,

apparently psychopaths don't experience a lot of fear. They don't have a lot of, I don't know if it's

they have very small amygdalas or there's not a lot of activity going on in't have a lot of, I don't know if it's that they have very small amygdala

or there's just not a lot of activity going on in the amygdala, but the amygdala is really dialed down

in psychopaths. They don't experience fear. But for the rest of us, we are going to experience fear.

So I wanted to talk a bit about how I reframe fear. And, yeah, using the example of public speaking, but again, it could be a fear of flying,

fear of driving, that's a really common one that I hear, social situations, relationships,

like commitment or intimacy or setting boundaries, anything like that. So even if you're not

someone that does public speaking or is afraid of it,

then you'll still get a lot from this episode. Before I get into it, I just want to mention a couple

of free resources I have for you on the topic of public speaking. So one is a free checklist for

anxiety-free public speaking. You can get that at karma-you.com forward-slash

speaking. I'll pop the link in the show notes for those listening on the podcast. And I also have a

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