connect and defer is kind of how I think about it. And if you can do that right, it usually

helps you immensely.

What's up, guys? Welcome to another five-minute fatherhood. So what does the Bible say about

how to handle temper tantrums? Is there a verse that could be helpful? And so I was recently reading

a book about temper tantrums. There's a great book. A lot of you guys have talked about, whole brain child, so many cool things in there just from a scientific perspective. Some things I don't agree with completely from tactical perspective, but I thought it was super helpful. I loved some of the things they said about tantrums. But it really reminded me of this verse. Let me read it to you guys, and then I'll talk a little bit about this. So First Thessalonians 414 talks about that you need to treat people differently depending on what stage they're in. It says, and we urge you brothers and sisters, warn those who are idle and disruptive, encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone. I think this is like, this should be

every parent's verse for how to handle temper tantrums. Because what do you say is there's actually

different kinds. One of the things that they say in this book is there's two totally different

kinds of temper tantrums. And you have to discern which one you're getting from your child.

There's the first one which is the emotional

overload temper tantrum. This is usually younger kids where they just literally lose control

and you cannot stop them. It's not pre-meditated. They're not manipulating at all. They literally

are, they don't know how to handle the

surge of emotions. And so in this verse, it says, help the weak, right? Encourage the disheartened.

Be patient. And so that's really important. However, there is a second kind of temper tantrum,

which is when it's intentionally manipulative. If you don't give me what I want,

I'm going to make your life miserable. And the authors of this book, they said, if you're getting

this kind of temperant tantrum, then the answer is never negotiate with a terrorist. They're basically

like, you need to make sure that you're training your children to, and you're not giving in to a manipulative temper tantrum, or it will get worse. And so this kind of goes back to the first Thessalonians 414, where he says, you know, warn those who are disruptive. Okay, this is a manipulative tactic. And so you have to discern which is which. And they look very similar sometimes on the

surface, but the way that you deal with this is very different. Jeff, I've seen you in real time,

you know, like really think through and deal with, particularly the emotional overload kind of

reactions. And I just want you to maybe talk through that one a little bit. Yeah, I think there's because there's different solutions for each. And if you cross those wires, then you're usually, you know, not doing damage, but just it's not helpful, right? If you're kind of giving an emotional overload answer to a manipulative tantrum or a manipulative answer to an emotional overload tantrum. So yeah, for us especially, I mean, yeah, our kids are still in the age where,

you know, they're tired and they're hungry and then they don't know what they're feeling. And then they're just, I can, I've started to learn to like the face difference where I've, you know, you kind of like as a parent get more and more expert, you know, and I feel like I know which one is the manipulative one of which one is the emotional overload one now. But yeah, I do feel like it's really,

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