Ep. 205: Four steps to assertively communicating what you want to do
The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
Natalie Lue
4.9 • 867 Ratings
🗓️ 20 November 2020
⏱️ 31 minutes
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Summary
The trap that so many of us fall into when we recognise our discomfort or that we don't want to do something is having a passive response. Natalie shares four steps for having a more assertive response that allows you to feel good about yourself and evolve your boundaries.
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| 0:00.0 | I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions. |
| 0:08.0 | Hello hello. |
| 0:10.0 | How are you doing? |
| 0:21.4 | It's that time of year where so many people wrestle with other people's expectations and boundaries around for instance |
| 0:25.0 | what might feel like family obligations |
| 0:28.0 | family events, social events, |
| 0:30.0 | and of course, |
| 0:31.0 | 2020 being the year that it is, some of that may feel very very loaded for some of us where there is extra tension, extra guilt, extra anxiety, and possibly extra resentment as well. |
| 0:46.1 | And in today's episode I want to share something I experienced recently and use that to highlight specific steps that we can take to be more |
| 0:58.1 | assertive and have an active response in situations where we tend to, instance be more passive or even passive |
| 1:05.9 | aggressive. So last month so that's in October 2020 if you happen to be |
| 1:11.4 | listening in the future it was my mom's birthday. Now thanks to the |
| 1:17.2 | old Rona I've only seen my mom two or three times this year I saw her in the summer for my birthday, so we were around |
| 1:26.8 | he should have for like 24 hours and then I saw her on March 22nd and March 20thirt, which was the day that lockdown started. |
| 1:37.7 | My grandfather on my father's side had passed away and my mom was taking care of the dog. Now I point this out because at the time when this happened we had |
| 1:49.7 | intended to have Sunday dinner, Mother's Day dinner with my mom and with everything that was happening, |
| 1:56.3 | my mom became very, very nervous about it and she was like, you know what? |
| 2:00.0 | Hand over the dog, you know, we'll keep a distance and you know I can take my gifts and |
| 2:04.3 | stuff like that and we can chat here in the drive but you know we can't we |
| 2:09.2 | can't like gather in the house and totally understandable. So as I said we haven't seen each other very much at all. |
| 2:17.6 | So my mom's birthday was on the Friday and I think on the Monday or Tuesday we got on a call and I said to her I'm thinking that I |
| 2:27.4 | come up on the Friday and I know that based on the current guidelines that you're in a different tier to me like where they where she is was a higher level so I can't go into your house so yes I can bring a big gifts and we can hang out but would have to be outside |
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