I have the honor of connecting with Gabby Bernstein today! Gabby is a spiritual teacher, motivational speaker, and catalyst for profound inner change. She recently launched her latest book, the New York Times bestseller, Happy Days.  Gabby has been transforming lives- including her own for more than sixteen years. She is a number 1 New York Times best-selling author. She has written nine books, including The Universe Has Your Back, Super Attractor, and her latest, Happy Days. In her weekly podcast, Dear Gabby, she offers real-time coaching, straight talk, and conversations about personal growth and spirituality with unique and inspiring guests. In this episode, Gabby and I dive into undoing the patterns that made us feel unworthy of love. We discuss the impact that big and little T traumas have on the brain, how our coping mechanisms could reflect the traumas we experienced, and the value of supporting the autonomic nervous system- specifically the sympathetic overdrive, which is a chronic state of hyper-arousal. We also discuss the effects of shame and how it clouds our perspective on the experiences we have had, and talk about using compassion as the antidote.   I hope you enjoy today’s conversation with Gabby Bernstein! Stay tuned for more! IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN: Noticing the patterns that keep us stuck in our lives is the first step to undoing those patterns. Why is it easier for people to stay stuck in their patterns than change them? How shame keeps us locked into painful patterns in our lives. Gabby talks about trauma and explains why everyone in the world today is traumatized. Using compassion as the antidote to shame. Creating a boundary of distance can help us view people through the lens of compassion rather than the lens of shame or blame. Addiction is an extreme way of managing impermissible trauma. How can those who grew up in traumatic circumstances change the course of their children?  The most important thing we can do for our children is to create a secure environment in which they can grow up. The book, Happy Days, is about re-parenting yourself so that you can heal the traumas of your past and undo the generational cycles. Gabby discusses tools and proactive practices for addressing trauma or uncomfortable feelings you may be experiencing from your past. About Gabby’s new book, Happy Days Gabby has long been loved by her readers as a spiritual teacher, motivational speaker, and catalyst for profound inner change. Her new book presents her most powerful teaching yet: a practical plan for transforming the pain of your past, whatever that may be, into newfound strength and freedom. It will answer your questions about why you feel blocked, scared, anxious, depressed, or alone. It will guide you to become the best version of yourself.  Happy Days may not look like Gabby’s other eight books on manifesting, spirituality and connecting to the Universe. But it’s actually her greatest spiritual book of all. The journey she underwent to overcome addiction, trauma, and depression has guided her to become the woman she is today.  The methods she was led to for healing, and her remarkable path of recovery, are nothing short of a miracle. “This isn’t a book filled with self-help tools offering a quick fix for your discomfort,” Gabby writes. “Instead, it’s a journey toward lifelong transformation filled with stories of resilience.”  Connect with Cynthia Thurlow Follow on Twitter, Instagram & LinkedIn Check out Cynthia’s website  Connect with Gabby Bernstein On her website www.deargabby.com/happydaysDear Gabby Podcast  Find out more about Gabby’s book, Happy Days  On Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter