Ep. 2 - How to stop thinking about my ex
How to Get Over Your Ex
Dorothy AB Johnson
4.7 • 577 Ratings
🗓️ 20 October 2019
⏱️ 13 minutes
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Summary
I get it. It's so damn annoying.
Your brain is CONSUMED with him/her. It's all you can think about… I would have paid big money to just mechanically erase him from my brain. I haven't found that solution but I found something else that works!
Our brain has 60k-80k thoughts in a day, and the brain is an efficient organ. So when it can run on default it wants to and it will. So when someone used to be in our life every day, it's easy for the brain to focus on that person not being in our life.
We must learn to manage our brain, to purposefully decide and rewire it to focus on the thoughts that serve us, that propel us forward in our future, instead of keeping us stuck in the past.
However, the #1 mistake I see people doing when attempting this is trying to paste a positive sticky note over a negative event or situation, that will not create lasting change. Learn how to find neutrality in your situation to then refocus your brain on what you can control, which is YOU.
In this episode:
- Why your brain can't stop thinking about him/her
- How to find neutrality in your breakup to manager your mind to feel better
- Letting go of beliefs you no longer tolerate
- Find evidence to support a new story about your breakup
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex with Dorothy A.B. Johnson, episode number two. I can't stop thinking about him. |
| 0:19.7 | Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time. |
| 0:26.0 | I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy. Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy. |
| 0:35.5 | Welcome, everyone. We are on an episode two. I'm so excited to have you here today. So we're going to be |
| 0:41.7 | talking about when you can't stop thinking about your ex. Three years ago, after the end of my |
| 0:46.7 | seven-year relationship, I remember one of the most annoying parts of the breakup was how much time. |
| 0:54.1 | I spent, just constantly consumed, constantly |
| 0:57.6 | thinking about him 100% over-analysing and obsessing over my ex. What he was doing and what he |
| 1:05.8 | didn't do during the relationship, after the relationship, like literally that's all I could |
| 1:10.6 | think about. |
| 1:11.2 | It was totally consuming everything. It was so annoying. I remember being like, is there any way |
| 1:17.7 | to erase my brain? Like can we just like plug something in and erase parts of my brain so that |
| 1:23.9 | he just was never there and I can just stop thinking about it. I genuinely would have paid big money to do that. |
| 1:30.9 | So a month after our breakup, I saw on Facebook that he had, |
| 1:36.7 | he took his new girlfriend on a helicopter ride. |
| 1:40.3 | And number one, I was already livid that he had a new girlfriend a month later. |
| 1:44.7 | But then secondly, to take her on a helicopter ride, I was so mad. |
| 1:51.4 | I was like, you've got to be kidding me. |
| 1:53.4 | When's the last time he had taken me on a day? |
| 1:55.6 | I went down the rabbit hole. |
| 1:57.0 | I spent the entire day thinking about him, his new girlfriend, in this stupid helicopter. |
| 2:03.9 | I was so livid. |
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