Ep: 2 How to Respond to a Spouse in Betrayal Trauma
The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert
Ashlynn Mitchell, Brannon Patrick, Coby Mitchell
4.8 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 2 March 2017
⏱️ 22 minutes
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Summary
We are glad you found our season 1 episodes where we share early parts of our processes of learning about and exploring the impacts of betrayal on our relationship, and the challenges of healing both sides of the relationship after sex addiction and infidelity.
Our journey has taken us a long ways from the time we recorded these episodes, but many have still found help and hope for healing in the information. We hope you always seek healing first for yourself, and where possible for the relationship, though staying together or choosing divorce or separation can occur at the point of betrayal and at times even after healing from betrayal and addictions.
If you would like support in healing from betrayal we’d invite you to look at our program https://www.beyond-enough.com/beyondbetrayal
It is not a program about staying together or leaving your partner, but rather finding the healing we need as an individual who has been made aware of our partner cheating.
If you would like support from a licensed therapist contact Brannon’s office at www.utahtherapy.org
To find out about Ashlynn’s groups https://www.thisisashlynn.com/mentoring
To get support from Coby check out www.growwithcoby.com
Thanks for your continued support for the podcast throughout all of our journey.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to our podcast. This is The Betrayed, The |
| 0:04.2 | addicted, and the expert. My name is Brannon and I am the |
| 0:07.1 | expert. I'm Kobe and I am the addicted and the other half of me is. I am Ashland I'm the betrayed and married to |
| 0:16.4 | Kobe. All right so today's topic is so important we're talking about how to respond to a spouse in betrayal trauma. |
| 0:25.0 | And so I think the first thing to understand that's really important is what is betrayal trauma. |
| 0:30.0 | And how do you know that somebody's having a trauma response or they're acting in their betrayal trauma? |
| 0:37.0 | Now betrayal trauma is different than normal trauma. |
| 0:41.0 | Somebody who's experiencing betrayal trauma is experiencing trauma that is long |
| 0:46.2 | lasting. They've been in it for a long time. They're in a relationship where they |
| 0:50.0 | still have trauma triggers. |
| 0:53.1 | The trauma is caused by attachment wounds. |
| 0:56.2 | And so a lot of different things can trigger betrayal trauma response. |
| 1:02.1 | And so to be aware of what betrayal trauma is and learn how to |
| 1:05.4 | respond to it is really important. And so one of the first I think the best way |
| 1:09.8 | to really |
| 1:12.8 | to understand how to respond to betrayal trauma is to learn what doesn't work |
| 1:16.0 | and you know oftentimes an addict's automatic response |
| 1:20.4 | to the betrayal trauma can be really destructive and cause more trauma. |
| 1:26.0 | And so that was absolutely my experience for sure because I mean and what that actually |
| 1:30.9 | looked like for me as the addict is when Ashton was, again I thought |
| 1:35.8 | that Betrial Trumba was like, my wife is crazy, she's having this crazy moment or she's mean. |
| 1:40.9 | But in truth she was in the Trill Trumb. And I honestly just didn't understand that. |
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