Ep. 170 - How are you doing?
How to Get Over Your Ex
Dorothy AB Johnson
4.7 • 577 Ratings
🗓️ 19 December 2022
⏱️ 14 minutes
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Summary
When you're going through heartbreak the question "how are you doing?" is a complicated question. Do you tell them the truth? Do you just say "fine"? Maybe you're even to the point where you're so sick of your own internal answer to that question.
In today's episode:
* Learn how to change the internal narrative to this question so you can feel calm and confident when asked how you're doing
* Understand what's holding you back from being honest
* Become sure of yourself and confusion free about this question moving forward in your heartbreak
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex episode number 170. How are you doing? |
| 0:10.0 | Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on Getting Over Your Ex without it just taking time. |
| 0:22.1 | I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy. |
| 0:24.3 | Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy. |
| 0:31.0 | Hello, beautiful brave hearts. |
| 0:33.3 | How are you doing? |
| 0:34.2 | We are going to talk about this beautiful question today. |
| 0:37.4 | While going through my pregnancy loss, this is a question that feels very difficult to answer. |
| 0:43.4 | My emotion is typically always changing and for a long while my answer to this question was |
| 0:49.4 | I am not okay. |
| 0:51.1 | But did people really want to hear that? |
| 0:53.1 | Like does the person asking me how I'm doing at Starbucks |
| 0:56.4 | and a hastingly, like a very, like I just make up words. They're hasting around. They're in a hurry, |
| 1:04.4 | right? Do they really want to know that I'm not okay and then have to go into a conversation? Maybe, |
| 1:10.4 | maybe not. I don't know |
| 1:11.7 | but for a long time my answer to that question is I'm not okay like clearly I'm not okay like how |
| 1:18.0 | dare you even ask me that question and when you're going through an earth-shattering breakup or |
| 1:24.5 | divorce this question I know can also be a difficult one to answer. And the interesting part was once I found myself telling the story of I'm not okay, |
| 1:34.2 | it was a thought I was choosing and it felt necessary and it creates a not-okay result, right? |
| 1:40.7 | And it's okay that I was saying that. I'm not, not you know upset because that was my truth for that |
| 1:47.0 | moment and I didn't want to say that I was okay um but if we think of this in terms of a statement |
| 1:53.5 | as an optional thought right it looks like this I say that I'm not okay makes makes me feel not okay unwell. |
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