If you're trying the same thing with different women that's not working, then it is you. Figuring out why are you choosing the woman that you're choosing? Why do you want a relationship? You really do need to create a list for yourself. What about me am I willing to give in a relationship? But what about me I'm going to put a boundary on in this relationship? So I don't exhaust myself because I think I need to do this thing. Welcome back to another episode, y'all.

We're here with Boshay Williams, licensed clinical social worker, man, and we're going to have a really good conversation about what he's seeing in sessions with couples, what he's seeing in sessions with black men, and then how we can navigate these things.

So if you're going through any type of relationship turmoil, you have conflict, you're going

through some type of trauma, you're a black man that's trying to show up better for yourself

and your family or relationships, this is the episode for you.

If you know a black man that is trying to show up better, trying to be a better father,

trying to be a better husband, trying to be a better partner, send this episode to him. This platform is all about helping black men to win. If you're a black man that this episode has been sent to that, I just want you to know that the person that sent this to you wants you to win, wants to support you, and cares about you and loves you, because, again, this platform is built for you so with that being said

bha's hey how you doing brother i'm good man i'm good i'm glad to be here bro yeah absolutely

watching you grow man no i appreciate it amazing yeah i appreciate it man i'm trying to go through

well uh the the gauntlet of black male therapist like we were talking about earlier right? And I feel like we definitely had to have you on. I remember early on when I started the platform, you were one of the first few black male therapists that I saw that was doing and staying on social media. So I appreciate y'all for just the work that y'all are doing and putting in our community, man. With that, I wanted to talk to you

about what is it that you're seeing primarily? Let's start with just black men, before we even get

to couples, because I think that's a natural transition. What is it that you're seeing primarily

when black men step into your office? It's a lot of different things, right? And we're really trying

to understand emotions. Okay.

They're looking to really know where their experience,

how their experiences are shaping them today.

Right, right.

And you think about the traumas.

You think about old school teaching,

how what masculinity looks like, right?

And then I still be the man's man,

but still be emotionally intelligent. Right. Because

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