This is feminist wellness and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, functional medicine expert and life coach Victoria Albina. I'll be full heart. Welcome my love let's get started.

Hello hello my love I hope this finds you doing so well happy new New Year. Felizanoero. Oh, I hope you had a lovely, lovely New Year's.

A nice chill one, hopefully, a safe and healthy one.

That's what matters most.

Tis the season, my beauties.

Where so many of our thoughts turn to making wildly perfectionistic fantasy-based

resolutions for the new year. Studies show that only a very small percent of

resolution setters will actually keep our own resolutions and yet we do this whole dance

with ourselves year after year after year we tell these ridiculous stories.

Then on December 31st, I had X, Y, Z kind of behavior that I don't like.

For example, I was overthinking.

I was over-functioning in my family. I was taking on other people's emotional wants, as needs, I have to fix.

I was spinning in the past, I had all my old people-pleasing habits that had me putting myself last all year all lifetime when

here comes the magical thinking and now January 1st this is the magical day in which

it shall all be so wildly different. If you're nodding

your head because you've been here, then you know what this whole resolution spiral

is all about. It's all about setting ourselves up for an awful lot of

ouch by believing that changing with date on the calendar means we will

magically be different people with different behaviors who take different actions just like that.

Pof. And what I've been musing on is how we can unwittingly course, use this process of setting resolutions as a buffer against our own

regret for the change we didn't make in the last year, the last 20.

So way back at episode 14, we first spoke about buffers, which are anything that we put between us and feeling a feeling,

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