Ep. 142 - Productive problem solving during your breakup
How to Get Over Your Ex
Dorothy AB Johnson
4.7 • 577 Ratings
🗓️ 16 May 2022
⏱️ 13 minutes
🧾️ Download transcript
Summary
"I wasn't enough" "I will never be enough" "he's become the man I always wanted and now I'll never find a partner as good as him" – these are common thought patterns that happen in breakups and divorce. In today's episode learn to how turn these common thought patterns into productive problem solving to help you create a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex.
In today's episode:
- Learn what productive problem solving in your breakup is and why you haven't been doing it
- Understand how not using productive problem solving is hindering your progress
- Become someone who uses their default thought patterns to their advantage to problem solve in a way that creates a life their ex regrets leaving
Transcript
Click on a timestamp to play from that location
| 0:00.0 | You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex, episode number 142, productive problem solving during your breakup. |
| 0:06.6 | Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, |
| 0:18.8 | a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time. |
| 0:22.8 | I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy. Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy. |
| 0:30.7 | Hello, beautiful brave hearts. How is everyone doing? So I recently conducted a five-day break-up boot camp live, which was super fun because |
| 0:41.4 | we have the five-day break-up boot camp for sale for $17 on the website anytime. I highly |
| 0:47.9 | recommend if you're loving the podcast, you do that. That's the best next step. And I actually |
| 0:54.0 | did it live, though, where I got to interact |
| 0:56.1 | with about 100 of you. And it was very clear that a lot of the thought patterns I was seeing |
| 1:03.2 | were not getting us closer to the solutions. Our brains were trying to solve problems for. |
| 1:10.0 | So for example, right, maybe one thought pattern is he's become the man I always wanted |
| 1:15.5 | and now I'll never find anyone as great as he was. |
| 1:19.2 | The problem your brain is trying to solve is I want an amazing partner, right? |
| 1:26.0 | I want an amazing partner. That's the problem your your brain is trying to |
| 1:30.9 | solve. But by believing he's become the man I always wanted and now I'll never find anyone |
| 1:36.1 | as great as he was, it's not getting you closer to a solution for the problem of finding an |
| 1:41.6 | amazing partner. What? |
| 1:50.3 | Because when we believe that we, when we believe that thought specifically, |
| 1:53.9 | he's become the man I always wanted and now I'll never find anyone as great as he was, |
| 1:57.4 | we feel despair, right? |
| 2:05.3 | We feel not great. And when we are in despair, we spend time crying and ruminating about what we wish we would have done differently in the past, which is something we can't |
| 2:09.7 | control. We're worrying about the future. We're beating ourselves up over the past, imagining, |
... |
Please login to see the full transcript.
Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Dorothy AB Johnson, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.
Generated transcripts are the property of Dorothy AB Johnson and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.
Copyright © Tapesearch 2026.