The way that you can tell someone is going towards burnout is that they start the next week with less energy than they started the last week.

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What's up guys, Jeff and Jeremy here.

Another episode of Five Minute Fatherhood.

Today's topic is when to send your wife on a mom

cation, which is basically what every mom and wife needs, but a lot of us aren't actually

creating space for that or time for that or energy for that for them to be able to do that.

Now, in our family, and I want to hear what Jeremy thinks as well on this, but in our family,

this is huge. I would actually call this the thing

that keeps our family together. Because our philosophy is if Alyssa is healthy and flourishing and

feeling like she's not burning out, then that bleeds over and trickles over to the rest of the family.

Me, the kids, et cetera. There's a level at which the mom and the wife is a nucleus of the family,

the center of the family, and kind of just the pulse of the family. And so that has to be guarded. That has to be honored. But I know for us, this was true just a couple days ago. Just a couple days ago, Alyssa was came to me, came to me and said, hey, I'm struggling. It's kind of difficult. I just need a break. And anytime that's like, that's like code red of like, oh, I probably should have given her one last week. If that's like,

I need a break comes out of her mouth. Right. Like that exact phrase. But immediately I said, okay, tomorrow, boom. Like I just clear like I had a lot of work to do too. Right. And so tomorrow was not a good day, but tomorrow it had to happen. So I just cleared everything. I rearranged everything,

right? And for me, those are the times where if like I really need it and I got to get stuff done,

then that's when I'm going to use screens or movies. to happen. So I just cleared everything. I rearranged everything, right? And for me, those are the times

where if like I really need it and I got to get stuff done, then that's what I'm going to use screens or movies because those are tools for me to then be able to navigate this, right? So I just use things to your advantage so that you can make this sustainable. And so yeah, so we sent her off. So she left for like 10 hours. She left right before breakfast and got home at dinner. So she basically, you know only had to do and then i still took care of the rest that night of dinner and putting the kids

down and stuff like that. She just came home because she wanted to see the kids. So yeah, this is hugely important. But yeah, you talked about more about it, Jeremy. What do you think? Yeah, the thing that I noticed stands in the way of a lot of dads initiating this is when they have the attitude, I do my job,

you do your job. And Jeff and I have told you guys, that's, that is not a good strategy for how

to build a family team is the divide and conquer because what is often hidden is there are so,

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