Hi friends, welcome to the Wabi-Sobby podcast, episode number 130. It has been quite a hot and wet summer, and that wasn't sexual, but whatever it was. I mean, in New York, it's like torrential downpour and it is hot as fuck it has been nice to take a tiny little

break and peep out to the west coast see my mom and dad let them make me feel like i'm a

small child again and yell at me for the first three days i'm here which makes me want to

leave immediately and then i'm also just humbled by

their grace and their excellent parenting, which is also quite annoying. But at the same time,

it is nice to feel like a kid again sometimes. Life is really interesting. There have been a lot of

questions I've had over the last few weeks.

Um, one that stood out that I had read was about a young girl asking about comparison.

This is a really good topic for today because I, I go through this too and people probably do not think that women in my caliber or my line

of work in front of the camera, in journalism, or even modeling or TV hosting.

I think the assumption is that we have a great life and that we don't have any sadness or pain or sorrow or anxiety

comparisons or deep depression, etc. But the truth of the matter is not everybody has to expose

their personal health issues or mental wellness or health issues with the public.

So you're never actually going to know what battle somebody is fighting.

Second to this point of comparing your life, say you are looking at somebody who's, you know, going to the Hamptons every weekend,

or they have a house there and they go there every summer.

I learned this very early on when I was Cynthia Sestito's sous chef,

and we used to cook for the stereo boys and a couple other celebs out in the Hamptons.

And also in the Hollywood Hills and in Malibu, like on the waterfront and up on the hills.

These are all places where I could have and probably did at some point compare my life to theirs.

There will always be somebody richer and smarter and thinner and more fabulous than

you. It doesn't mean much. It doesn't help to tell women this kind of advice, but it will help

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