I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello. I am a bit excited about today's topic because it is something that has been on my mind for about a year

or so now particularly as I was exploring some subjects for this you know book proposal that I was

talking about in last week's episode. Before I get

into talking about this subject I just want to say thank you. Thank you for listening to me last week.

Thank you for reaching out and expressing your love and support.

Thank you for venting your own frustration, either about my experience or about your own experiences of failure.

And I think that the big thing that came out of last week for me was realizing how it is so important not to hide these

things away, to not make it the shadowy part of our life and that so many of us don't talk about how we feel as a result of these things and

maybe if we did talk about it a bit more it just wouldn't become this snarky piece of baggage that is you know lurking around

of us you know nipping at our heels every time we go to try something new we might feel yes a bit of trepidation each time we now have to put ourselves in a

position of being vulnerable and things possibly not working out but we would still feel as if we could have a go anyway because we know that we can survive.

Whereas when it's sort of unprocessed and lurking around in the background and nipping at our heels,

each time we think about trying again, it just holds us back. And the funny thing is as well is that I realize that my inner critic would hate the idea not would does hate the idea of me talking

about myself in the way that I did last week you know missing you know failure at something you know that's bad you know that's the destruction of self and

what I realized actually is that when you do buck against your inner critic and you do the thing that feels, you know,

authentic to you that feels right for what you need at that time, that the iniquitic quietens down because it doesn't have room to

criticize you because you're actually being authentic.

Okay, on to today's topic. So if I haven't

mentioned it before coming to America the classic 80s film featuring Eddie Murphy, where he's Prince of a fictional

kingdom in Zamunda, and he goes to America to find love rather than being in an arranged

marriage, is my joint favorite film of all time alongside Ghost.

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