EP 0069 Anxiety Help - You Are NOT Responsible For The Happiness of Others (with Monique Koven)
The Anxious Truth - A Panic, Anxiety, and Mental Health Podcast
Drew Linsalata
4.9 • 1.4K Ratings
🗓️ 5 June 2019
⏱️ 25 minutes
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Summary
Do you worry that your anxiety problems are going to “ruin everything” for your friends and family? Being worried about letting people down or ruining things can seriously stand in the way of taking the steps you need to take to build a better life. I’ve found this to be a common theme among anxiety sufferers, so lets talk about how the happiness of others is NOT your responsibility. You are not responsible for making people happy or sad, and you are not responsible for the positive or negative outcome of every social event, family function or other situation that involves other people in your life. In this episode Monique Koven and I discuss the origins of this distortion, how it can be an impediment to progress, and what we can do about it. Thanks to Monique for joining the discussion today!
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, what's up guys? We're back again. This is actually Try Number 2. |
| 0:04.0 | Drew here, that anxiety guide.com, joined again by my friend Moniquecovin from Canada all the |
| 0:10.0 | way from the Great White North. What's going on, Monique? |
| 0:13.3 | Not much. |
| 0:15.1 | It's doing well, yeah. |
| 0:17.1 | How's your Tuesday? |
| 0:18.2 | It's a Tuesday, by the way, today. |
| 0:20.0 | Yeah. |
| 0:21.0 | You're watching this. |
| 0:21.4 | Tuesday's going well. |
| 0:23.0 | In the future. |
| 0:24.0 | So we've actually done one of these before. |
| 0:27.0 | Let's give people a little bit of a background that maybe didn't see the first one that you and I did. |
| 0:32.0 | Tell me a little bit about your practice and what you do, |
| 0:35.0 | so that everybody knows who they're talking to. |
| 0:37.0 | Sure. |
| 0:38.0 | So my name is Moniqueovin, and I'm a certified trauma recovery coach and a social worker and I'm also a survivor of chronic PTSD from childhood trauma and I lived for decades with the very typical symptoms of PTSD, |
| 0:55.5 | you have disassociation, triggering, anxiety. |
| 0:59.7 | I was also diagnosed with generalizing anxiety disorder before the PTSD and by the way that is because at the time |
| 1:07.1 | they didn't really understand that you could have PTSD from childhood trauma like as if you were in a war. So anyway I was |
| 1:17.1 | diagnosed with with those and I lived for decades with the symptoms that really took over my life and I mean I still was living |
| 1:27.2 | living I was in a lot of distress you know I still was working as a social worker doing the best I could, but I lived in a |
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