My entitled sister is claiming that she understands me grieving the loss of my husband

because she herself lost her dog. And now she thinks she understands me fully when it comes to how

I'm handling the loss of my husband. But after telling her off and saying no these are not

comparable, she freaks out and is now refusing to talk to me. And I'm now not sure if I'm the jerk

for this situation and I seriously don't know what to do. Here's what happened. To make a long

story short, I lost my husband only a month ago. It's hard. I'm still grieving and I miss him

every single day. I have to take medication for depression and anxiety to help me get through

the day. Last week my sister's dog was put down due to some health issues and she was very upset,

which is understandable. She called me as soon as it happened and said I was the only sibling

who would understand her pain. I didn't mind honestly. I just wanted to comfort her since

her dog meant the world to her. She held awake for him and her whole family attended. It really

was a nice service. But now she is actually comparing our losses. Telling me she knows exactly what I'm

going through. That she can relate to the pain of losing someone so close to you. She calls me asking

if we should visit graves together. It was fine the first time but it's constant now. She goes

three times a day. It's already difficult to go once a week for me and she knows this. I feel

like she's not even considering my own grieving process. Anyways, I told her that grieving her dog

is not the same as me grieving my husband. Now she's upset and is refusing to talk to me. I get it,

it was uncalled for really. But my loss is new to me too. And I guess I just got frustrated with how

different we're dealing with our losses. I don't know. I feel like she should be able to understand

where I'm coming from as well. A dog is not the same as a husband. A dog can't love you back

like a husband can. A dog can't read to your children like a husband can. A dog cannot make soup

when you're ill like a husband can. It's really hard for me right now to discern when I'm being

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