Am I the jerk for declining to attend my friend's destination wedding?

All because I can't afford to go out of the country,

while also trying to meet my professional and financial goals.

Because after I told my friend this,

she freaked out on me and is now questioning my friendship with her,

claiming that I'm selfish and unsupportive and that I would prioritize material things over our friendship.

And now I feel totally lost. And this point I seriously don't know what to do.

Here's what happened. I'm a 20 year old female and I need some advice on a situation that has left me feeling

conflicted and unsure if I'm in the wrong. Here's what's happening. My friend,

let's call her Sarah, recently announced that she's getting married to her long-time partner

and for the sake of the story we'll call him Alex. I was thrilled for her and I couldn't wait to celebrate their special day.

However, Sarah dropped a bombshell when she revealed that the wedding would be a destination affair,

taking place in an exotic location halfway across the world.

While I was excited for Sarah and Alex, I knew that attending their destination

wedding would be a significant commitment, both financially and in terms of time off of work.

As much as I wanted to be there for Sarah on her big day, I had to consider my own circumstances.

I've been saving up for a down payment on a house, and the cost of attending the destination wedding would set me back significantly.

Additionally, I had already used up most of my vacation days for the year and I couldn't afford to take more time off of work.

I struggle with the decision for weeks, torn between wanting to support Sarah,

and needing to prioritize my own financial and professional goals.

Ultimately, I made the difficult decision to decline the invitation to the destination wedding.

I reached out to Sarah personally to explain my decision, emphasizing how much I valued

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