My entitled friend orders the most expensive food on the menu at a diner we were eating at, as he assumed and demanded that I pick up his bill, all because I make a lot more money than he does. But after telling him that I'm not going to do that, and that I have no obligation to pick up his bill all because of my financial situation, there's now this weird tension in my friend group, and it's leaving me wondering if I made a mistake by not picking up his bill. Here's what happened. I'm a 21-year-old male, and recently I went out to dinner with a group of friends. We went to a pretty nice restaurant, and before we ordered, everyone seemed to be on the same page about paying for their own meals. There was no talk of splitting the bill evenly or anyone covering for someone else. One of my friends, who we will call Jake, who's 22 years old, ended up ordering way more than everyone else. He got multiple appetizers, a steak, a couple of cocktails, and even dessert. Meanwhile, I didn't get anything crazy, just a burger, some fries, and a drink. When the bill came, Jake casually said, oh, you've got this right. And I was really confused and I asked what he meant. But he just laughed at me and said, you make more money than me and you've always talked about investments and stuff. I figure you wouldn't mind covering me this time. And for context, I do well financially, but I never act like a walking ATM. I then told him that just because I have money doesn't mean that I'm paying for everyone's meals, especially when he ordered the most expensive stuff at the table. When I sent this, he then got all defensive and actually said that he would not have ordered as much as he did if he knew that he had to pay for it himself. But I just shrugged and I told him that sounded like a him problem and not a me problem. Well, he ended up scrambling to pay his part, but he was

clearly pissed off. After dinner, some of our mutual friends told me that I could have just covered it

just to avoid the awkwardness and that it wasn't that big of a deal since I had the money. But you know

what? To me, it was a big deal. I don't want people assuming that I'll pay just because I'm in a

better financial position. Now, there's this weird tension in the group, and Jake is now acting incredibly cold towards me. So honestly, am I the jerk for refusing to pick up his bill? Especially when he assumed that I would? Because right now, I'm incredibly confused. Oh, man, this is crazy because there is no way you're the jerk here. This guy seriously assumed, oh, you're rich, you can handle this right. And it's like,

no, dude, that's not how this works. You can't just go up to someone and be like, oh, it's totally

fine, you're going to take care of it. You have all this money and we're friends, so you'll just pay for it. It's like, dude, what are you talking about? That is absolutely entitled and so toxic. Not to mention that he literally ordered the most expensive stuff on the menu.

Like he was clearly trying to take advantage of the original poster and just literally

assume like, oh yeah, he's going to take care of it, all without clearing it with him beforehand and being like, hey, could you pick up the tab or something like that? Like, this is such a weird way to approach anything in life. So no, to the original poster, you are definitely not the jerk. This guy is out of his mind for treating you this way. And honestly, if I was in your shoes, I would do the exact same thing and shut this guy down every single time. If you like Am I the Jerk, you're probably going to love Am I the Genius. Check it out, link down below in the description. Also, go to am I thej.com slash submit if you would like to submit your own

stories. Am I the jerk for refusing to pay for my former roommate's coat after I sent it away to be donated to a women's center? Because right now, my former roommate is super pissed off at me. And at this point, I don't know what to do. I'm a 22-year-old female, and I have a friend who's 20 years old, and for the sake of the story, we'll call her bell. We had been on the rocks with our

friendship for a while, and neither of us bothered to see each other much, since she stayed with me after being kicked out of her flat. Well, a couple of days ago, we had a huge argument about the way that I spoke to her. I tried to explain and defend myself, but as always, she victimized herself. started to say that I never bother with her, and she's the only one who ever makes effort. I said, I only check in every once in a while, since her boyfriend doesn't like her at my house anymore, due to him liking being around my brother. And for reference, she had a thing with my brother out of spite when we had an argument. Well, she then got really upset and angry. She was calling me names and saying I was useless and then she blocked me before I could even reply. Fast forward to today and she texted me again. She said to me, I left my coat at your place and I like it back. Now, by this point, I gutted my entire bedroom and me and Bell have very different sizes in weight. So I thought the coat she's

referring to was one of my old coats considering it was in the back of my wardrobe and it had been

there for over half a year. So I chucked them into a charity bag with lots of other clothing to take

them to a woman's aid center. Well, I told her that her coat was gone and that I had donated it.

And when I said that, she got really mad and started to demand that I pay her back for the coat. Now, I refused to do so, as in my head, leaving something you apparently care about so much at someone else's house for nearly seven months, despite being told to pick it up, doesn't really translate to someone who cares about their belongings. So at that point, I can honestly assume that no, you no longer want that coat. And also, I had forgotten it was hers. And I told her that it was her own fault for not listening and picking up her stuff. Well, she's now incredibly mad at me. So it begs the question. Am I the jerk for throwing that coat out? Because right now, I'm honestly not sure what to do. No, I don't think you're the jerk at all. The way she's acting is really weird and in my opinion, I don't think you have any obligation

to her at all. First of all, anyone who's going to call me ugly names and swear at me and say that

I'm useless and then block me before I can have some kind of response. Like, no, I'm sorry,

any sense of maturity is going to be thrown out the window. And that coat, in my opinion, is just karma working its magic.

Seriously, you don't talk to people like that.

You don't treat them like garbage and then expect anything out of them.

So no, you're not the jerk for donating that?

Because it's not your fault that she left it in your closet.

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