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Sex is a gift exclusively given to you and your mate. It's not always easy to have those

romantic encounters. It takes some intentionality, but it's worth the effort. I'm John Fuller,

joined by Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife Erin. They lead the Focus Marriage team. And Greg, what

have you found are some of the more common sexual struggles in men versus say like women? How do

those compare and contrast? I think in a very general sense that for husbands sex is usually a way

to feel connected. So we may be exhausted, we may be stressed, there may be things going on in our

life, maybe we're disconnected, you know, relationally. Well, the act of sex is what connects us.

And that can then create a real mismatch in desire or even frequency with our wife because

I think it can be very different for women. Well, because it's the exact opposite stereotypically,

which means like 80-20-year-old 80% of the time it's true that emotional connection for a woman

leads to the desire for sex. And so you think about women, I gosh, I think of so many of the young

moms that are in my office throughout the week and they are exhausted and they're anxious. And,

you know, that leads to this lack of emotional intimacy and then thus a lack of the desire for sex.

So it just plays out in kind of the opposite direction. Yeah, let's go ahead and conclude with

that as a background. A conversation we had with Deborah Filetta. She's a counselor, a writer,

a podcaster, and Gary Thomas. He's a thinker, a teacher. He really writes so well. Deborah and

Gary joined Jim Dayley in the studio and offered some helpful perspectives on sex and marriage.

Deborah, let me ask you a common thing that I hear is, you know, that idea that women's brains are

so interconnected that you can be multitasking, thinking about a variety of things. And even with

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