All right, team, welcome back to the men talk show.

Connor Beeden here.

Imagine a relationship.

Just for a moment, imagine a relationship that is a constant roller coaster of highs and lows,

leaving you emotionally exhausted, but for some reason,

you're hooked. You're in. It's almost like you are addicted. You love them so much and you're so

connected and then there's massive disconnection. Likely the sex is great or even if it's not, you just can't seem to pull away.

This is the classic avoidant, anxious, push, pull. And it is usually more defined by the duality and

the dual experience, the juxtaposition of massive affection, getting what you want,

feeling close, feeling desired, feeling loved, and then withdrawal. Affection and withdrawal.

And you go through this cycle over and over and over again. What I'm going to talk to you about in this

video is not only learning how to identify it, but learning what to do with this cycle and how to

get out of it regardless of where you on the spectrum. Maybe you're not an avoiding person,

maybe you're not an anxious person. Maybe it's just like this dynamic that shows up in your

relationship. So let's dive into it. A couple of things. Number one, what contributes to this

dynamic are oftentimes the attachment styles of the two people. There's almost always a pattern

that's showing up in your life that is familiar to something in your

past, right? This doesn't occur in a vacuum. This is something that you have either experienced before

or it's something that a part of you wanted. So what do I mean by that? Well, if you are the person

who has the affection and you feels the closeness and then you start

to withdraw, it's very likely that you grew up an environment where love and affection and

praise was given to you and then taken away, given to you and then taken away. Or that love and

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