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So yesterday we talked about our warp nostalgia for the past versus the glory days of our present days.

Today I want to discuss why. Why our perspective

about the present is so warped. Not just why we glorify the past, but more importantly, why we

vilify the present, why we think things are so bad today. What is causing this distorted

perspective? One that is leading to a very real and present condition of

anxiety and stress and depression and other very real mental health conditions. Here's what it is.

As humans, we are an interdependent social tribe species. The way that we understand ourselves,

what's possible, what we want, and what we

lack, is relative to those around us. We know our status only by comparison and by contrast to

others in our tribe. Whether we are satisfied and happy with ourselves depends largely on who we are

comparing ourselves to. For the guy in

Moghudishu who gets two full meals a day versus only one meal that everybody else around him gets,

that guy feels like a king. Yet some people in America think that if they don't have the latest

Birken bag or whatever, that they're

living like a pauper. Prior to only the mid-2000s, the average person had 10 to 20 close

tribe member relationships and up to 150 in their wider social acquaintance circle. That made one

satisfaction and happiness comparison sample size relatively small,

and they were all usually people from the same socioeconomic realm and neighborhood.

And this is probably why people have nostalgia about the yesteryear times.

They were actually happier. I mean, actually, just not for the reasonsesteryear times. They were actually happier.

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