All this love and all this pain, you bring them from another word.

This is Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, and you're listening to the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast.

Another tear just burst from the side of your eyes.

That is all this love by Russo and Winberg, a song about true love over time and a deeply

authentic relationship between two people who are growing and changing together.

Because that's the point. And I thought that song was a perfect intro to our topic today,

because on today's episode, we are doing a deep dive into what it really takes to fix a

relationship in a deep and enduring way. If you've ever

listened to this program before that I am intensely passionate about not just personal

growth work, but really evidence-based approaches that we know are going to meaningfully and

genuinely lead people into real and lasting transformational

change, particularly when it comes to relationships. And if you've listened to me before,

you will also know that I often talk about the fact that almost all of what passes these days

for couples counseling is conducted by practitioners

who are not qualified to be working with couples. They are not practicing evidence-based forms

of couples counseling and that there are really negative consequences to this. At best, it's a big waste of time and money

when somebody shows up for help and it's ineffective. But at worst, this can lead to a real

tragedy for not just a couple, but a family. Because if a couple shows up with a sincere desire

to get help and connects with somebody who genuinely

doesn't know how to help them.

That can be their one and only shot at saving their relationship, saving their family,

and it heads to divorce.

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