Emotional Constipation: How Holding On Is Making You Sick | ft. Iyanla Vanzant HTS #473

Heal Thy Self with Dr. G

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Alternative Health, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 1.6K Ratings

🗓️ 6 April 2026

⏱️ 56 minutes

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Sponsored By: → Santa Barbara Chocolate | CocoaDynamics available at https://SantaBarbaraChocolate.com. Use code DRG20 for 20% off. → Puori | Go to https://puori.com/DRG and use the code DRG at checkout to get 32% off your first Puori Creatine+ subscription order. Episode Description You keep ending up in the same relationship. The same patterns. The same pain. And no matter how much work you think you've done — it finds you again. Rev. Dr. Iyanla Vanzant is a six-time New York Times #1 bestselling author, spiritual teacher, and one of the most powerful voices in personal healing of our generation. Host of Iyanla: Fix My Life on OWN and called by Oprah the most powerful spiritual healer on the planet — but today, she's just Auntie. Her new book Spiritual Hygiene is a practical guide to clearing the emotional residue that has quietly been running your life, and this conversation is one of the most honest, most grounded Dr. G has had about what it actually takes to heal from the inside out. In this episode, you'll discover: • Why you keep attracting the same relationships — and what the pattern is actually telling you about what's unresolved inside you • What emotional constipation really is, how it builds up over a lifetime, and why it eventually ruptures in ways you don't expect • Why self-awareness — not forgiveness, not mantras, not more events — is the first real step to spiritual hygiene If you've read the books, done the work, and still feel stuck — this is the episode that will show you why, and where to go next. Find Iyanla: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iyanlavanzant/ Book: Spiritual Hygiene: A Practical Path for Clean Living, Inner Authority, and Divine Freedom Timestamps: 0:00 - Why We Keep Attracting the Same Relationship Patterns 1:31 - Meet Rev. Dr. Iyanla Vanzant: Spiritual Teacher & Author of Spiritual Hygiene 2:42 - Hot Seat: Emotional Constipation, Grief vs. Mourning & Why Boundaries Feel Selfish 5:49 - What Is Spiritual Hygiene? The Daily Practice Most People Skip 7:28 - How Unprocessed Residue Shows Up in Your Life Without You Knowing 9:49 - The Trust Wound: How Childhood Betrayal Runs Your Relationships 14:18 - The Brain's Negativity Bias & Why We Seek Pleasure Instead of Joy 17:14 - Your Partner Isn't the Source of Your Love — They're the Mirror 25:50 - Inner Authority: How Cleaning Up Inside Shifts Everything Outside 27:58 - Emotional Constipation Explained & How It Sabotages Relationships 34:44 - The Emotional Illiteracy of Men & Why Breath Is the Way In 39:32 - When the Body Forces the Reckoning: Iyanla's Near-Death Story 44:32 - How Emotional Holding Becomes Physical Disease 47:49 - What's Inside Spiritual Hygiene: A Reading from the Book's Welcome 51:27 - What Makes Iyanla Feel Most Free & Where to Find the Book Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Let me give you a classic one that is very common.
0:03.0	Trust.
0:05.0	Going into a relationship where there's a script running in the back of our head,
0:10.0	in the back of our mind, where there's a residue that is settled in our heart,
0:16.0	that it's not safe for me to trust.
0:19.0	I don't trust people. I don't trust myself. I don't trust. And usually
0:24.0	the trust is towards something good. You know, I don't trust that you love me. I don't trust
0:30.5	that you'll be here. I don't trust because usually by the time we're five, somehow or another,
0:42.3	consciously or unconsciously, our trust has been betrayed. So we have the residue that when I trust, I get hurt.
0:47.3	The people I love, I can't trust. The people I love betray me.
0:51.3	And that's running, not consciously, you don't think of that. But what it looks like
0:55.2	is you get a partner and you want to check their phone. You're in a relationship and somebody says
1:00.8	something that stirs up a feeling and immediately you believe they're being dishonest. Or you expect
1:06.9	people to be dishonest because in this life, we don't get what we ask for, we get what we expect.
1:13.6	Have you ever dated someone who felt oddly familiar, almost like your parent?
1:18.6	You know the one that was emotionally unavailable or hot and cold and loving but never fully there?
1:23.6	And no matter how much work you do, how healed you think you are, you keep ending up in the same
1:29.2	relationship just with a different face. We will attract experiences that mirror our unhealed wounds.
1:35.3	And it's not just about relationships. It's money, it's joy, it's trust, it's how safe we feel
1:39.5	in our body to rest or receive or even be fully seen. That is why I had this conversation.
1:47.7	Today I'm joined with Reverend Dr. Ayanla Van Zand.
1:51.3	She is a six-time New York Times number one bestselling author, spiritual teacher,
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