Emotional Cheating, Selfies & Self-Sabotage In Marriage | Digital Infidelity, Online Flirting & Boundaries S3. EP.51
2 Be Better
Chris Burkett
4.8 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 22 December 2025
⏱️ 90 minutes
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Summary
In this episode we read a raw, vulnerable email from a long-time community member whose 14 year marriage has been rocked by emotional cheating, digital infidelity and self-sabotage on both sides. We break down her story of online flirting, texting clients, TikTok DMs, sending “innocent” selfies to other men, performance issues in the bedroom, hormone struggles, deep insecurity, mom burnout, and a husband who now considers them separated. You’ll hear us call out rationalizations like “it was just a selfie,” “nothing sexual,” “we were separated in my head,” and “I don’t know why I did it,” and dig into the truth about attention-seeking online, fantasy relationships, and how selfies, DMs, and secret conversations become emotional affairs that destroy trust, respect, and intimacy.
We walk you through what accountability actually looks like after betrayal, how to stop blame shifting to “internal demons” and past trauma, how to apologize without justifying, and how to rebuild or walk away when digital cheating and emotional affairs have already crossed the line. We talk monogamy, open-phone policies, boundaries with the opposite sex, no-private-DM rules, parasocial relationships, stay-at-home mom resentment, the self-imposed prison of housework, and why your marriage will always mirror the effort you give it. If you’re dealing with emotional cheating, online flirting, TikTok and Instagram DMs, low self-worth, or a partner who says you’re “separated,” this marriage advice conversation will give you brutal honesty, practical language, and a clear standard for what real change and healing in a relationship actually require.
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| 0:00.0 | And look how far we've come, all the things we've done, did it all with love, |
| 0:09.0 | beauty from the bottom of, all I want is you, you're my favorite view, but there's nothing move. |
| 0:20.0 | Girl, you made my happy more and we are back |
| 0:24.0 | welcome back you big bootyed bitches |
| 0:25.8 | uh season three episode |
| 0:29.8 | 51 of the To Be Better podcast |
| 0:31.7 | we have one episode to record after this one |
| 0:34.2 | and we are done for the year |
| 0:35.2 | that can be our onesie episode |
| 0:36.1 | it'll be our onesie episode and we're going to need to do that with this week sometimes so that we can get finished |
| 0:40.9 | and start season four. |
| 0:53.5 | That's insane. Yeah. We have a whole lot going on right now. You want to housekeeping at all even though we were just live on TikTok? What do you got for housekeeping? This morning on the TikTok live stream, I was talking about how we're going in the season four. |
| 0:54.7 | And I was like absolutely insane. |
| 0:54.7 | Also, I had a about how we're going into season four. And I was like absolutely insane. |
| 1:04.1 | Also, I had a thought this morning as I was getting ready and I was my life and doing the thing. |
| 1:14.3 | I had a thought like all of the people out there who hate us and like have made it their life mission to destroy us and where are you at right now? Like how are things going for you? My life's great. I'm on an upward trajectory. |
| 1:20.9 | Everything is wonderful. Like all of your efforts have been for not. But I want to check in with you. |
| 1:29.5 | I had that thought this morning. So like if I'm visiting you in your dreams or something, just know you're in my mind. I am starting |
| 1:34.5 | the work for my women's retreats. So January women's retreats, itinerary is now in the works. I'm |
| 1:40.2 | going to have that posted by December 1st. So the ladies have a month to have everything solidified. And I'm going to have that posted by December 1st, so the ladies have a month to have everything |
| 1:45.8 | solidified, and I'm going to have the topics ironed out. I'm going to get the binders going. |
| 1:50.9 | I also have that going for December couples retreat. Very excited for that. It's going to be a |
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