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Welcome to press send. I'm Chanel Xander and this is the podcast and talk through all of your problems and give you our best advice today. I'm sitting down for a much awaited episode. So many of you asked me to record this episode, which I have been so excited about today. We're talking about harnessing your feminine energy. Now, when I started hearing about

masculine versus feminine energy, my feminist hackles raised up a bit in an overly gendered society. I was like, nope, this is not for me. I don't like what this sounds like. And so I was like, okay, let me breathe. Let me comment it. Let me just learn a little bit more about this.

And honestly, studying this and learning more about it actually has helped me so much, particularly in how I move around my love life and the dating world.

And I realized for so long, I have been tapped into my masculine energy. And so I'm going to talk a little bit about what that means. And then some tips at the end to kind of like harness your feminine energy and bring it out more that have helped me and then also some things to read.

And to research for all of you that might help you. So when my hackles kind of raised up about feminine energy, I immediately went to this is gendered. This is about, you know, reducing yourself as a woman. I did not like it. And then I started to learn more. And actually, and this is the most important thing about feminine masculine energy.

gendered, there can be men who have more feminine energy, there can be women that have more masculine energy. We all have both, we all have both, right.

I realized when I started reading and learning about harnessing feminine energy that I had been in my masculine energy for years, maybe most of my life and had been operating in that part of my my soul.

And it was really enlightening to me because as I started to read about it, I realized that so much of our culture and the way women are treated forces us into our masculine energy, it actually doesn't appreciate our feminine energy, although that is a huge superpower of ours.

So let's break it down. What is like masculine energy versus feminine energy masculine energy is the doing the busyness, the constantly kind of like getting ahead in your career, pushing through solving problems.

It is like an energy of urgency and of doing doing doing right solving. It also what I realized when I was in my masculine energy more is it was highly me coordinating my life over coordinating my life.

So really controlling things. There was no ease. It's all about pushing, controlling, planning, and none of that. Let me say that right now. None of that is bad. And we don't have to be in our feminine energy all the time.

But it's something that I think a lot of us struggle with like for me, I found I was in my masculine energy almost 100% of the time. So the way that looked in relationships was I was the one trying to figure everything out. I was the one planning. I was the one kind of like pushing the relationship forward.

I was the one kind of planning everything and doing doing doing and giving giving giving. And I'm sure a lot of you feel that way in your relationships or endating right now is that you're in the giving energy or pursue all energy.

So I always thought I'm a strong independent woman. I can pursue men. I can pursue things I want. I can be the one that's leading all the conversations that's pushing this forward to a goal that I have in mind.

Well, none of that is bad. If you are dealing with a masculine energy partner. You are going to but heads.

Because you are not letting them be in their masculine energy and also you're going to suffer because you're not actually in your feminine energy at all.

And you are actually resting in something that is not completely, you know, balanced. So you might be saying like, okay, then what is feminine energy, right.

This does not mean that you have to be in your feminine energy all the time. Once again, and this has again, nothing to do with gender. So the feminine energy is really centered around flow.

So moving with the flow of life. It is it is not highly structured. It is not pursuant. It is a receiving energy.

And that's something that whenever I heard that it really scared me because I think a lot of us when we think about having a receiving energy rather than a giving energy, we worry that no one will give to us.

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