Hi, this is Janet Landsbury. Welcome to UnRuffled. Today I'm going to do something a little bit different.

I am going to talk about an important mindset that we need as parents, ideally, that will help us a lot.

And I'm also going to offer at least one specific example, because I know that I

helps to explain what I'm talking about. When I'm asked about one important thing that I could share with parents, one important recommendation, this is one that comes to mind.

Another one that comes to mind is let feelings be, which I talk about a lot, because that is such a challenge for us.

But this one is more of an overall perspective.

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Okay, so the mindset is for us to rise tall into our power as parents to believe in and embody our power.

The power differential between us and our children is enormous and for our children, it actually needs to be.

Because if we can imagine being a tiny new person in the world, for them to feel that they are overwhelming for us, that their behavior has the power to regularly upset us, this message that they're a little more than we can handle is disquieting.

So what we can do by understanding and stepping into our power is give our children this whole layer of safety and comfort.

That doesn't mean life is going to be perfect and easy all the time with young children. It just isn't. There are a lot of challenges.

But this is like a foundational comfort level that we're giving our children and if it's not there, life is going to be a lot tougher for us because it's less comfortable for our children.

And so this is helpful on a practical level for us because our children's behavior goes hand in hand with their level of comfort.

So when they display challenging behaviors, it's a sign of some level of discomfort and if they have this basic sense of security that we've got this job, like we can do this job, we can handle them.

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