Eight Steps to Getting a Divorce: Understanding the Divorce Process [219]
Flying Free
Natalie Hoffman
5 • 1K Ratings
🗓️ 18 April 2023
⏱️ 20 minutes
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Summary
Have you ever considered getting a divorce, but the process is so foreign to you that you feel like shutting down when the thought crosses your mind? It can feel big, unfamiliar, and overwhelming. I want to help break it down for you in eight steps so you’ll have an overview of what it’s like and how to prepare.
Let’s talk about picking an attorney, what the paperwork might look like, how your soon-to-be-ex might respond, what mediation looks like, and more. Divorce does not have to be scary and can actually be life-saving for you and your family.
Key Points From This Episode:
- What retaining legal representation may look like.
- Why your soon-to-be-ex may drag things along during the divorce process.
- What the heck “pendente lite” orders are. Latin may not be your strong suit - let me help.
- How to prevent yourself from being financially abused throughout the divorce.
- What “horse trading” might look like as you equally split your assets.
- Why your soon-to-be-ex may have renewed interest in spending more time with your kids as the divorce process starts.
- Why you’ll want to join the Flying Free Sisterhood after this episode is over.
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now. |
| 0:07.0 | And you're listening to the Flying Free Podcast, |
| 0:11.0 | a support resource for Women of Faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden |
| 0:16.4 | emotional and spiritual abuse. Welcome to episode 219 of the Flying Free Podcast. I spent the first 20 years of my first |
| 0:30.4 | abuse of marriage never once thinking about divorce. It was so far off my |
| 0:36.2 | radar screen it was like it didn't exist because it didn't exist for me. I grew up in an environment where divorce was the |
| 0:45.3 | cardinal sin and the only people who got divorced were failures and |
| 0:49.3 | sinners and I was a good girl. You would not come across my path |
| 0:54.1 | and find a T uncrossed or an I undotted. |
| 0:58.1 | Now, I did think about killing myself. |
| 1:01.2 | I also sometimes prayed my husband would die in an accident or illness of some kind, so death |
| 1:05.8 | and destruction were always on the table as potential options, but divorce never crossed my mind. |
| 1:12.1 | Did I mention I was a good girl? So when I finally broke out of my cult bubble and started seeing what I had been living in and that it really was as bad as the words in my journals seem to indicate, and I wasn't crazy. |
| 1:25.6 | I was just living in Crazy Land, which makes anyone feel crazy. |
| 1:29.5 | I also woke up to the possibility of divorce. Maybe nobody had to die in order for me |
| 1:36.0 | to be able to breathe the rest of my life. This was a hopeful prospect and the more |
| 1:41.0 | I thought about it the more realistic it seemed to be. |
| 1:44.0 | But how does one get a divorce? |
| 1:47.0 | I had never seen the inside of a courtroom other than Judge Judi's on TV |
| 1:51.5 | and I didn't know any attorneys and those two things right there |
| 1:55.3 | were the extent of my understanding. Beyond that it was a mystery that quite frankly |
| 2:00.3 | scared the bajibers out of me. Now since then I've learned a few more things and |
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