E314 | How to Compare Yourself to Others in a Way That's Constructive

The Art Of Coaching

Brett Bartholomew

Health & Fitness, Business, Education

5 • 642 Ratings

🗓️ 19 February 2024

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

How can you keep self comparison from becoming a negative force in our lives? We’ve all heard phrases such as “comparison is the thief of joy,” and have been bombarded with negative stories and statistics about social media and its magnification of self comparison. While we don’t dispute the destructive effect it can have, comparison can also be harnessed for good and boost our self worth. Today’s episode will cover the history of self-comparison - the innate human behavior that can help us assess where our current abilities are and motivate us to push further, if properly managed and kept in check. We’ll cover: The science behind self comparison and social learning theory 4 types of comparisons How our drives affect the way we compare ourselves to others and our past selves General tips for how to keep self comparison from turning into self destruction Referenced Resources: If you happened to miss the first episode in this series - How To Communicate With Someone Who Shuts Down or Stonewalls - give it a listen! We can’t fully grasp who we are without understanding what drives and motivates our decisions and behaviors. Take our quiz and understand more thoroughly another piece in the messy puzzle of self comparison. It’s natural to want to compare yourself to your past self and others. If you’d like to receive feedback and be evaluated in real time from a diverse group of like-minded peers, we can’t recommend The Apprenticeship, Speaker School, or Brand Builder live workshops enough! If a group workshop doesn’t really sound like your thing, but you would really like some professional evaluation and feedback, check out our 3 month 1:1 Mentorship Program. Reach out to our team at [email protected] to take your next steps! Our next Apprenticeship workshop is in beautiful Phoenix, AZ, and the Early Bird special is only available until February 20! Don’t miss out on your chance to SAVE $150! More dates and events for 2024 are being added, keep up to date and come see us this year at one of our Live Events! Referenced Material: One of life’s biggest stressors - Time Management The envious brain: The neural basis of social comparison Life Lessons and Leadership From My Mom

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0:00.0	I don't think there's many of us who have at some point in our life haven't said that
0:14.9	we want to work on becoming a better spouse, a better parent, a better leader, better coach,
0:19.5	whatever.
0:20.5	And whether that's being better at how we communicate, during hard conversations, how
0:24.3	we manage our emotions, how we improve our ability to be more assertive, or even just working
0:28.4	on not overpowering conversations.
0:30.8	If that's you and you want to be better and you want to make a bigger difference, you
0:33.9	know there's always room to improve.
0:35.8	Check out our apprenticeship workshop in Phoenix, Arizona.
0:38.7	It's April 20th and 21st, and you're going to engage in so many unique ways that give you feedback.
0:46.2	We use a small group environment, we use video breakdowns, we mix it up and make sure
0:51.2	that there's some fun involved with improv, there's more serious tactical role playing,
0:55.6	but most importantly you're going to get feedback, the stuff that you don't get in your
0:59.5	day job.
1:00.5	At least not the way many of us want, and you're going to walk away with things that
1:03.8	transfer to every single part of your life.
1:06.4	Now not only every part of your life, but also everything you are, right?
1:10.4	Whether you're a parent, whether you're new at what you do, you're going to be able to use this stuff.
1:15.9	You can check it out at artofcoaching.com slash events.
1:19.4	We would love to have you.
1:20.6	It's also a great opportunity to get some hiking in and enjoy the great weather. So hope to see you in Phoenix!
1:40.1	Welcome to the Art of Coaching Podcast.
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