E248: What to Say When Someone Asks Why You Don’t Drink

Sober Friends

Matt J

Alcohol Free, Alcoholics Anonymous, Recovery, Dry January, Spirituality, Sober, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Sobriety, Sober Curious, Addiction, Religion & Spirituality, 12 Steps

4.2 • 718 Ratings

🗓️ 14 October 2025

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Send us a text It’s one of the most awkward moments in sobriety when someone offers you a drink and you are not sure what to say. Do you tell the truth, make an excuse, or try to explain yourself? Matt and Steve talk about those everyday situations where being sober still feels weird, like barbecues, work events, neighbors, and family get-togethers. They share their own stories, what to say and what not to say, how to keep it simple, and why most people do not care as much as we think they do...

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0:25.3	All right.
0:25.7	Let's get into the show.
0:30.1	Welcome to the sober friends podcast.
0:32.4	My name is Matt Jay.
0:34.2	Over there is Steve.
0:36.1	Co-hosting with me.
0:38.6	And it gets weird when you start feeling like you have to explain to normal people.
0:45.8	What the hell is normal?
0:46.8	Normal people who don't have a problem with alcohol that you do or you feel that
0:52.5	urge that you need to explain something about you not drinking.
0:58.1	So what the hell do you do in that case?
1:00.7	This is one of those that I see on TikTok and Instagram all the time in those sober places.
1:07.6	I don't know what to say.
1:10.0	They're going to ask me.
1:12.1	So what do you think?
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