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I like to take advantage of the notes function in my phone.

At Joe and Charlie, I'm taking down notes, at meetings sometimes, I'm taking down notes,

because you never know what you're going to see or here that's going to hit you.

And Steve and I had something that somebody shared at our meeting last night that hit both of us.

And what that was is sometimes I trigger somebody else's character defects.

Steve, what's going on?

Welcome to the program.

Yeah, everything's good.

And that meeting was good.

We were both talking about it before this. I do think that we both were hit by this comment of

our character defects triggering other people. I know it made me pause and go, yeah,

that's true. And it still can happen today, right? That's the whole point, right?

Oh, yeah. I share about it all the time that my character defects are still something that I need to deal with.

And if I'm not in the right place, then those character defects can certainly trigger other people's behavior around me.

And then I could, you know, I can easily look at their behavior and go, oh, look at that jerk and not not really acknowledged the fact that I had something to do with how they're behaving.

I had to think long and hard about that when I'm feeling like a victim.

And I looked back of what the people who really bothered me, who pissed me off that I fought with,

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