Welcome to understanding today's narcissist, where we explore how you can better manage and relate to the narcissist in your life.

I'm your host and psychotherapist author Christine Hammond.

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Thank you. Today we're going to talk about how to survive a divorce with a narcissist.

I know this sounds like an interesting topic by itself, but if you've ever been in a divorce

with a narcissist or you're thinking about going into a divorce with a narcissist, this is

for you.

There are a lot of twist and turns that a narcissist has up their sleeve.

And because they are so naturally charming and can turn it on, they manage to fool judges,

attorneys, even yours, unfortunately, and even worse yet, if you're doing a collaborative

divorce, sometimes they manage to fool the mental health

person who has been designated to your case. This, of course, means that they get more and you get

less. And the problem with that is once you have those written down in the divorce documents,

it never really goes away. And that's exactly the point that

the narcissist is trying to make with you, that they never really go away. So let's talk about how

to survive a divorce with a narcissist today. I'm going to give you an example of Jane. Jane was married

to her narcissistic husband for 15 years and she decided to get a divorce.

They have two kids between them and they both are gamefully employed.

They've been growing apart for about 10 years and things had just escalated and gotten so much worse.

She thought that the divorce process would be simple because he said to her in a fit of rage one time,

well, we should just get a divorce. And she's like, okay, but it wasn't that simple. So the further

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