Welcome to understanding today's narcissist, where we explore how you can better manage and relate to the narcissist in your life.

I'm your host and psychotherapist author Christine Hammond.

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You can find my articles listed at psychcentral.com under Exhausted Woman. Today I want to talk to you about seven ways that a narcissist retaliates to their children after divorce. So you think that

things are going to like get better and they don't actually. Things get even more difficult because

the children are now with their narcissistic spouse for any amount of time, whether it's half the time or just

a portion of the time. And the children are kind of being pulled in two different directions.

Yes, things were bad when you were together. And yes, things will be bad even after you have

gotten a divorce. So I'm going to talk a little bit about some of the tactics that narcissists use on the kids.

And the reason I want to highlight this is because my ultimate concern has always been the

protection of children in all of this.

I'm more concerned about them than I am the adults.

That might sound a little harsh, but it's true.

And because they are the innocent victims in all

of this. They did not ask for their parents to be their parents. They didn't ask to live in a certain

situation or within certain environments. And they are most likely just victims through all of the

abuse that has gone on and what they have seen or not seen

and had to deal with by themselves.

Children of narcissists have a difficult time sometimes growing up and when they become older,

they usually need some help along the way in order to keep themselves from becoming

like their narcissistic spouse or from marrying one because you often marry what you're

familiar with, unfortunately, and that's kind of how the narcissism gets perpetuated down from

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