Welcome to love and abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship, from simple disagreements to emotionally abusive behaviors.

You deserve respecting kindness.

All the information on this show is meant for educational purposes only.

Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being and always pick your battles wisely.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

This may be just in time for some people, and this may be too late for others, but I'm going to talk about it anyway.

Somebody sent me a message that I'll just read you the message and I'll take out some details.

But the person wrote,

I'm not sure what compelled me to reach out to you at this point in my life. I left my violent and abusive relationship a couple years ago. And it has been quite a while since I

turned on your podcast. In fact, I think I tried to forget a lot from that part of my life. But today, for some

unknown reason, love and abuse popped into my head, and I realized that I was ready to acknowledge

what terrible trouble I was in and how much of you helped me along the way. I listened to your

podcast every day at work. You were a voice when I was silent. You showed me that I was not,

in fact, crazy and that the relationship I was in was extremely unhealthy. I built up the courage to

finally call the police, and I provided enough evidence that my ex-partner was convicted of felony, domestic

violence. I won custody of my child and while the physical

pain inflicted upon me was awful, nothing compared to the emotional abuse. You were such a beacon of

light in my life at that time and I am forever indebted to you for giving me the resiliency

encouraged to step away from the toxicity

that was slowly eating me alive.

Thank you, Paul, forever.

You saved me in a big way.

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