Hey, I'm John Fuller in the studio with Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife Aaron Smalley.

They lead the marriage team here at the ministry and let's get a fast start let's go right into a conversation focus on the family president Jim Daly and I had with Ron Deal.

Ron's talking to blended families about true healing from really difficult paths,

and his wisdom applies, I think, to all of us.

So much of what you're saying there Ron is being the adult in the room.

I'm thinking of younger kids obviously, not adult

children, but you do need to be the adult and sometimes that's hard because we

get the lizard brain, right? And we want to fight down really low and emotionally

and just do it because I said do it.

And boy, we've got to refrain from that.

Because the kids are so fragile right there.

And they're looking to you,

even in the taunting that they may be doing, they're looking to you even in the taunting that they may be doing

they're looking to you for stability and you know some kind of answer that gives

them confidence that we're on the right path here. The reason an adult would get controlling in that moment,

just do it because I told you so, come on,

why can't you get along?

She's a great person.

Why don't you love her the way I love her?

That's fear.

Right.

There's a pain deep inside that says, oh no, if my kids don't embrace this, us, our

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